Elicambel
- Date posted
- 48w ago
please help, i posted this 2 hours ago
i really need someone to help and just to clarify this happned when i was under the age of 7
elliss2elliss2
- Date posted
- 48w ago
Hey youđ! Thanks for sharing. I know saying things like âcalm downâ wonât help and you might not even listen to anyoneâs voice but your own (that happens to me when I panic). But think of this: I believe something in that direction also happened to me, I mean I donât know if I was the perpetrator or the victim. The thing is one time a boy (5 years younger than me, we were children) told me several times he would kiss me which was very scary because I couldnât do anything against him saying that and also you donât expect it. I also never talked to anyone about this (because I was ashamed). You know what I think today? That boy had NO IDEA what he was doing and what longlasting implications this had for me. Today I forgive him, because he didnât know what he was doing. He was not mature but just a kid Iâm not from the US, so I donât know so much more of this law. I donât want to question this law or undermine it. Just, when no one sued you or told you to the police, youâre fine.
ElicambelElicambel
- Date posted
- 48w ago
@elliss2 wouldnât it only of being thankyou for your reply and thankyou for sharing that with me but iâm just confused because would it only be sexual assault if i forced him or coerced him? i did neither and ive researched about this a lot and i dont know whether i did something really wrong or not, im so confused but i did not force him or anything, i thibk i said do you want to try something and they agreed and i felt super uncomfortable afterwards and stopped it and now i cant let this go and im terrified, i feel sick
ElicambelElicambel
- Date posted
- 48w ago
@Elicambel sorry i didnât mean to say wouldnât it only of been at the start that was a mistake
ElicambelElicambel
- Date posted
- 48w ago
@elliss2 im sorry if my comment freaked you out i didnt meant for that if i did
elliss2elliss2
- Date posted
- 48w ago
@Elicambel No, youâre good, nothing freaked me out. I hope you will get better. I donât believe you can get the problem âsolvedâ. Wish you the best
OCDisQUICKSANDOCDisQUICKSAND
- Date posted
- 48w ago
What is cosca?
ElicambelElicambel
- Date posted
- 48w ago
@OCDisQUICKSAND itâs child on child sexual assault and im scared if i have but people around me told me i havenât but maybe im overthinking it i dont know but im panicking
OCDisQUICKSANDOCDisQUICKSAND
- Date posted
- 48w ago
@Elicambel Gotcha. Hereâs what you do. Every time the thoughts come say that maybe you did do what you fear. And? Donât struggle with OCD, it makes it worse.
Wolfram Wolfram
- Date posted
- 48w ago
Question, when did you actually start feeling guilty about this? I'm guessing recently?
ElicambelElicambel
- Date posted
- 48w ago
@Wolfram i remembered it happned and my OCD latched to it
Wolfram Wolfram
- Date posted
- 48w ago
@Elicambel Just remember hindsight is a bitch. You were a kid and had very little idea what you were doing. Don't hold yourself accountable as of you were your present self because you weren't. Kids do silly things when they're curious, it's exploration and how we learn about the world. Not everything we do will be perfect, even as an adult
ElicambelElicambel
- Date posted
- 48w ago
@Wolfram ive been obsessing about this and worrying about it for nearly 3 years now
Wolfram Wolfram
- Date posted
- 48w ago
@Elicambel Are you in therapy at the moment? I know its tough to be obsessing about one thing for so long. I've been there
ElicambelElicambel
- Date posted
- 48w ago
@Wolfram im currently not in therapy but i think i need to be because i donât think i can take this any longer, i feel evil and i feel like i dont even deserve to be here and all my memories are confused and mixed up and i dont know what to think
Wolfram Wolfram
- Date posted
- 48w ago
@Elicambel Definitely look at options. Stay strong OK?
ElicambelElicambel
- Date posted
- 48w ago
@Wolfram thankyou for your help and i really feel embarrassed about some of the things ive posted on here and i feel like people may have judged me for it
Wolfram Wolfram
- Date posted
- 48w ago
@Elicambel If they have, they have. You're seeking help and that's brave. I've definitely posted stuff that was judged by others. It takes strength to be vulnerable and sometimes people forget that
ElicambelElicambel
- Date posted
- 48w ago
@Wolfram thankyou so much, youâve been a great help, i wish you the best
Wolfram Wolfram
- Date posted
- 48w ago
@Elicambel Np. Likewise
ElicambelElicambel
- Date posted
- 48w ago
@Wolfram thankyou for this :)
Wolfram Wolfram
- Date posted
- 48w ago
@Elicambel Any time âşď¸ I've been there too
BoosbootsBoosboots
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 48w ago
this happens to me as well but i was younger and i have no idea tho if i was the perpetrator or not and i have a mix of so many other people , but i dont know who started it or what happens first but im trying to be more kind to myself and that i was just a child, same as you under the age of 7 someone else a third party was doing things to my family and i and then we started doing it to each other is was really bad and all kept hush hush
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