ROCD Flare Up Triggered By Arguments w/Partner?

I’ve noticed I tend to get sucked into (gradually like quicksand) ROCD thoughts, feelings and tendencies after arguments with my fiancé. Things could be great with him for weeks/months and then we might have an argument. The anxiety post argument tends to linger and I find myself beginning to spiral. Some times the spiral is worse than others and can go on for a couple weeks before I find equilibrium and peace of mind again. Can ROCD flare up after an argument(s)? Is that one of the things that triggers the ROCD? Can someone relate and share about your experience? Or confirm this happens? Thanks in advance!

Username: Honeyshark Honeyshark

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 42w ago

It’s happened to me a lot because the argument triggers the “what if” thoughts. It sounds like you’re looking for certainty that this is ROCD so sit with the feelings and think maybe this is or maybe this isn’t ROCD. Otherwise you’re feeding your OCD. You’ve got this.

Username: AnonymousAnonymous

Date posted: 41w ago

@Honeyshark Thank you 😊 The “what ifs” is what happens. I’ve just recently been diagnosed so I’m asking to learn more than anything. I’d like to be able to recognize triggers and patterns so I can act preventatively and also learn how to better manage the symptoms/spiral.

Username: SadUnicorn3 🦄SadUnicorn3 🦄

Date posted: 41w ago

Yes it happens to me. After every argument I naturally start to feel really down, even when we’ve resolved the issue or talked it out. It sucks so much. Ocd likes to take over in your most vulnerable moments just remember that

Username: AnonymousAnonymous

Date posted: 41w ago

@SadUnicorn3 That’s very helpful. Thank you for sharing that 🙏🏻

Username: Anonymous

Date posted: 23w ago

Relapse and feeling alone

I’ve worked on my ocd for years now, and more often than not it’s manageable, but when my ROCD flares up it really bothers me. I’ve been with my partner 7 years everything is fine realistically but after a triggering argument I keep getting intrusive thoughts that my partner is cheating on me. I have no proof because there’s been no real reason to believe it other than minor changes in his behavior (he recently was laid off and is a bit stressed so it’s understandable.) I can tell I’m going through ocd because it’s leading me to feel the need to check, ask reassurance, and think things through constantly. I’m trying to get over it but it makes me worry if it is really happening and I’m not having ocd. Even though my partner has never given me a solid reason to believe they would do that to me. It’s just so hard because I feel like no matter how many times he proves to me he’s not my brain still comes up with a reason it may be true. I also don’t want to be a toxic partner and I have explained to him what is happening. I just can’t seem to get any comfort and my brain continuously has been taking moments that were probably innocent and turning it into potential evidence. Has anyone else dealt with this theme? I feel like I’m going crazy

Username: Fr0ggy

Date posted: 21w ago

ROCD maybe?

Do you ever meet a guy that treats you so well and you fall in love with him but then all of a sudden you get hit with thoughts of self doubt on weather or not you do love him or even find him attractive? I’m going through this right now and these thoughts overtake my emotions and any time we do lovey dovey things my stomach drops and I get anxious when I can’t feel any lovey dovey emotions. It also makes me want to run away or makes me question that I don’t wanna be with him and it’s stressful to deal with these thoughts daily. Anyone relate?

Username: ZJSreptiles

Date posted: 19w ago

Intrusive thoughts when mad.

Just a quick question for anyone on here today. Does anyone else's OCD get more prominent when they're mad?? Not necessarily "mad" but just frustrated. For example, I'll be having an argument with my girl and the intrusive thoughts just seem to arise way more frequent and severe i guess is a word i can use for it. They just pester me a lot more when I'm frustrated rather than just sitting around playing a video game or something. Appreciate y'all wit the feedback. Have a good one.

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