I read yesterday on Google that ‘someone that is good for you might not be for you’ and ‘just because someone is good for you doesn’t mean you will be attracted to them’ and I’ve started to spiral after a good recovery time, obviously due to my thoughts I find it difficult to feel attracted to my bf at all times but now my brains convincing me I don’t have to be with him just because he is good for me
That's silly, you love him 💗 I get the same exact thoughts, but then I seriously think about breaking it off, and I realize how much I'd miss him. Also, your partner isn't supposed to be attractive to you 24/7, that's a lot of pressure to put on a human being with flaws 💕
@AvatarLaura I know that’s exactly true! I think being out of the intense obsessive honeymoon phase too I get thoughts that I don’t love him, but choosing him everyday and showing love in any way I can shows a lot coming from me 🩷
@ocdsufferer101 Exactly exactly exactly, the honey moon phase ebs and flows, and my rocd gets really bad during the ebbing too haha
I am definitely not attracted to my husband when he does one of my icks but then it always comes back. If he makes you happy and you have genuine feelings for him then don’t worry about those quotes. Obviously I know easier said than done bc of OCD but I’ve been there and I always think of a bad scenario and how I respond like tears or heartbreak I know my true feelings
@jserrano92 He does make me happy, and I know deep down I’m still head over heels. It’s just so difficult seeing quotes like that and having rocd because it just creates an even bigger intrusive thought; does that mean I don’t love him, what if this is me etc, it’s just a little blip in my recovery though😅
@ocdsufferer101 Yessss 10000% understand!! Been there so many times
@ocdsufferer101 This is what i get all the time, it comes and goes and I panic when I don’t feel as in love but in all relationships you have stages where the spark is not gonna be as strong but it will come back. Maybe keep communicating with your partner and do things that are gonna keep it exciting that’s what I do and I make sure he gives me the same treatment he did in the beginning so I feel fulfilled x
it really helps to stay away from googling/ searching on the internet- it can be a compulsion
@Quinty8* It came up in the middle of a compulsion 😵💫 bye bye google
Do you ever meet a guy that treats you so well and you fall in love with him but then all of a sudden you get hit with thoughts of self doubt on weather or not you do love him or even find him attractive? I’m going through this right now and these thoughts overtake my emotions and any time we do lovey dovey things my stomach drops and I get anxious when I can’t feel any lovey dovey emotions. It also makes me want to run away or makes me question that I don’t wanna be with him and it’s stressful to deal with these thoughts daily. Anyone relate?
I just started dating this guy not too many months ago. he is everything i ever wanted and he treats me right. but now my OCD intrusive thoughts are creeping back in. ones like “do i love him/like him” and like “i have to tell him im having these horrible OCD thoughts or we will never know how i truly feel.” but i know i love/like him. And sometimes I’ll be having a good day and then BAM, the thoughts smack me in the face and i get stuck in an anxious loop and it ruins my mood. how can i break this compulsion without feeling so anxious and do i tell him i’m having these thoughts to relieve the anxiety?
This past week has been very challenging; I have been seeing this guy now for a couple of months, and every now and then I will experience a loss of interest in him. Sometimes this is brought upon by the OCD itself, which makes me not want to be around him because he is the trigger. Other times, it’s hard to tell if I’m genuinely not interested, and this drives me absolutely crazy. I feel like I am leading him on and forcing myself to like him just because I want to be in a relationship. To make things clear, he is the sweetest guy and hasn’t done anything wrong; he knows that I struggle with R-OCD and has been very understanding, but isn’t aware of my periods of disinterest and doesn’t know just how distressed I get. This morning, he texted me and said he can’t wait to see me. While reading his text, I never got excited or felt butterflies, I just felt sick to my stomach because all I can think about is how I’m gonna have to tell him I’m not into him right now. I feel like at this point with the back and forth feelings, I just need to end things. The more I think about it, the more I start to believe and feel that’s the right answer. I get sad because I am starting to catch feelings and don’t want to put a stop to a potentially good relationship. I’m really trying to understand why my feelings for him are constantly up and down.
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