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- random26281
- Date posted
- 49w ago
false attraction
how do i know if something is false attraction or genuine attraction? is there anyway to figure this out?
- Username
- gp gp
- Date posted
- 49w ago
I’m not a psychologist, but the way my psych explained it is it’s all to do with what you want, and usually what you want doesn’t give you obsessive anxiety inducing thoughts. Now that’s problematic for an ocd sufferer, as our brain goes “but what if I do want it?” “Omg does it feel like I want these thoughts?” “I must want these thoughts cos they feel so real?!” And off to the anxiety races we go. Now - what I dare say people will tell you is that you need to somehow be ok with not figuring it out. How do you do that? Stuffed if I know as I’m still trying my best to practice.
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- random26281random26281
- Date posted
- 49w ago
@gp exactlyyy. my therapist always tells me that but it’s sm easier said than done.
- Username
- random26281random26281
- Date posted
- 49w ago
@gp but what ur psych said helped me so much. ig that’s true, im so worried about being gay and if im that worried about it its probably because im not and its js my ocd
- Username
- gp gp
- Date posted
- 49w ago
@random26281 I hear you. I have the same thoughts and feelings. It’s like before you had these thoughts you knew who you were and like it/loved it. Now it’s gone from that to just plain anxiety/fear that this change is true. Along with all the other symptoms. It’s really really really hard. Not sure how I’ve survived so long with it.
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- random26281random26281
- Date posted
- 49w ago
@gp exactly , i feel so lost and i don’t feel like myself i feel like im playing a role. and for the first time in a while i like a guy and it feels so weird and fake and like im playing a role.
- Username
- StoicGuyStoicGuy
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 49w ago
@random26281 Trust yourself, OCD changes our thoughts and feelings. If you like this guy then allow the thoughts to come and then just move on with your day. Thoughts and even feelings aren't facts.
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- StoicGuyStoicGuy
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 49w ago
But you have to live with uncertainty. There is no easy way to achieve this. I practice by reminding myself in any way that I really can't be sure of anything. Certainty is a lie. Therefore, live by your values, not your thoughts. Let your values and beliefs guide you. Live with uncertainty because in reality we can never satisfy OCD certainty as it doesn't exist.
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- GorgeousgirlieGorgeousgirlie
- Date posted
- 48w ago
I say if you’re not sure just asses what you like about that person sometimes its just limerence or you convincing and putting in patters from other people that arent yours. So just ask yourself what do i like about this person? Are they my type
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- Anonymousesti
- Date posted
- 25w ago
SOOCD real attraction
For the people who have SOOCD : do you guys ever wander if your false attraction to the unwanted sex is actually what true attraction feels like and what you actually felt for the "wanted sex" wasn't real and was just forced all your life because of society? This thought is currently consuming me because I feel like its true for me... like whenever I imagine a guy it feels like forced attraction but if I imagine any girl it feel true and intense??
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- Fr0ggy
- Date posted
- 24w ago
SOOCD
This post will be for people 18+ and it is a topic on sexual attraction, if you are comfortable you can read but it’s completely up to you. I know I’m not the only woman that watches lesbian love for pleasure as we are all humans and our hormones go up. I’ve been watching lesbian love for years now (about 3 years) and in most of that time, not once did I question my sexuality until someone asked me a question that triggered my overthinking. Today after watching that, I was asking myself questions like what it would feel like to do this with a woman? How would it feel like to be with one? And because these thoughts came to my mind I freaked out because I keep thinking that I like females but never in my life and even till this day have I ever fallen in love with a women or even thought about marrying a women one day. I always want to have a husband one day and at least have a kid or two. But lately all this questioning has me confused to the point where I question if I’m bi or lesbian and if I even have SOOCD or if it’s generally just me tryna figure out my sexuality or if I’m just in denial. I am also talking to a man romantically and whenever I’m around him I feel happy and I’m always excited to talk to him and he also makes my heart flutter and my body burn for him. But because of these recent thoughts I’ve been having, it just confuses me and adds some stress. Any tips for how I can go about this?
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- helpmeimsosc...
- Date posted
- 20w ago
Attraction to guys still missing even after ocd
Even after ocd has calmed down. Scared that when my ocd goes away, I’ll still have “attraction” and groinals to girls. I don’t want to be lesbian. It’s like I don’t want my ocd to go away now? Anxiety and intrusive thoughts have gone down but my false attraction still feels real? And now it feels like I’ve always had this. And my real attraction is still missing? Has this happened to anyone ?
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