random26281
- Date posted
- 1y ago
false attraction
how do i know if something is false attraction or genuine attraction? is there anyway to figure this out?
gp gp
- Date posted
- 1y ago
I’m not a psychologist, but the way my psych explained it is it’s all to do with what you want, and usually what you want doesn’t give you obsessive anxiety inducing thoughts. Now that’s problematic for an ocd sufferer, as our brain goes “but what if I do want it?” “Omg does it feel like I want these thoughts?” “I must want these thoughts cos they feel so real?!” And off to the anxiety races we go. Now - what I dare say people will tell you is that you need to somehow be ok with not figuring it out. How do you do that? Stuffed if I know as I’m still trying my best to practice.
random26281random26281
- Date posted
- 1y ago
@gp exactlyyy. my therapist always tells me that but it’s sm easier said than done.
random26281random26281
- Date posted
- 1y ago
@gp but what ur psych said helped me so much. ig that’s true, im so worried about being gay and if im that worried about it its probably because im not and its js my ocd
gp gp
- Date posted
- 1y ago
@random26281 I hear you. I have the same thoughts and feelings. It’s like before you had these thoughts you knew who you were and like it/loved it. Now it’s gone from that to just plain anxiety/fear that this change is true. Along with all the other symptoms. It’s really really really hard. Not sure how I’ve survived so long with it.
random26281random26281
- Date posted
- 1y ago
@gp exactly , i feel so lost and i don’t feel like myself i feel like im playing a role. and for the first time in a while i like a guy and it feels so weird and fake and like im playing a role.
StoicGuyStoicGuy
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 1y ago
@random26281 Trust yourself, OCD changes our thoughts and feelings. If you like this guy then allow the thoughts to come and then just move on with your day. Thoughts and even feelings aren't facts.
StoicGuyStoicGuy
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 1y ago
But you have to live with uncertainty. There is no easy way to achieve this. I practice by reminding myself in any way that I really can't be sure of anything. Certainty is a lie. Therefore, live by your values, not your thoughts. Let your values and beliefs guide you. Live with uncertainty because in reality we can never satisfy OCD certainty as it doesn't exist.
GorgeousgirlieGorgeousgirlie
- Date posted
- 1y ago
I say if you’re not sure just asses what you like about that person sometimes its just limerence or you convincing and putting in patters from other people that arent yours. So just ask yourself what do i like about this person? Are they my type
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