bobafettea
- Date posted
- 1y
confession ocd question
how did y’all resist confessing things and reduce feeling that nasty deep pitted guilt and shame?
M1ndoverMatt3rM1ndoverMatt3r
- Date posted
- 1y
Honestly, by sitting with uncertainty. I know this so much easier said than done but reassurance seeking will never be good enough for OCD. I know it’s so scary but this disorder needs 100% in order to survive. Leaning into uncertainty feels so unbearable, but you can do it! Are you seeing a therapist?
M1ndoverMatt3rM1ndoverMatt3r
- Date posted
- 1y
@Anon700 *100% certainty
bobafetteabobafettea
- Date posted
- 1y
@Anon700 not seeing a therapist quite yet :(
M1ndoverMatt3rM1ndoverMatt3r
- Date posted
- 1y
@bobafettea I hope you’re able to use one! Honestly I couldn’t get through this without one and I’m okay saying that. If you decide to proceed on with one, my advice is to just be as transparent as possible! You’ll get the right tools and guidance for recovery. I’m wishing you the best! This disorder is truly debilitating
Simon Simon
- Date posted
- 1y
I know it feels almost impossible, but resisting confession and sitting with the guilt is the best thing you can do. Every time you do it, even though it feels bad, your fear/threat system watches and learns from your actions. You might not feel momentary relief, but eventually doing this will take you out of the ocd cycle.
Hieronymus Hieronymus
- Date posted
- 1y
I just challenged myself to not confess to something for three months
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DannyO507
- Date posted
- 24w
I need help dealing with this
I have been really really struggling for the past 3 months and haven’t been able to stop intrusive thoughts/ rumination and confessing. It’s making me question my entire life, my relationship and even who I am as a person. It’s mainly effecting my relationship, I am so afraid that I did something or think things that are definitely hurtful to my partner. I know my brain is contorting my own memory and making things seem so much worse. I also know I haven’t done anything bad, all my things I’ve confessed about have been considered “normal” and I’ve been told that “you’re normal, you didn’t do anything wrong”. But I have felt this intense sense of guilt and shame and it doesn’t go away, I can’t even be a normal person anymore. And I keep searching for “just one more thing I need to tell” and I don’t want to keep searching my brain of every time I’ve said or done anything that I can distort and make seem 1000% worse. I’m isolating myself and just feel like I’m a bad person. I keep confessing my thoughts, feeling, urges, etc. to my partner and while I know I would never do any of these I feel like my ocd is trying to convince me that maybe I would because “why else would you think it or feel guilty” and that makes it so much worse. I really need guidance on how to handle this. What do I do to stop feeling like this and heal?
Sillygoose27
- Date posted
- 20w
OCD Guilt
I can’t help but feel so anxious because of guilt. I feel guilty about not sharing everything about my OCD to my partner, but because I understand that confession itself is a compulsion and would not help anyone. I feel so anxious too that if all my fears come true and she finds out, then it would be so devastating for everyone especially her. Does anyone feel the same thing? How could I change my perspective on this?
ydyydy
- Date posted
- 14w
sigh. guilt.
i feel very, very guilty. i'm resisting the urge to confess right now. i don't think it's a good idea, but it's hard. i'm starting college in a bit and going to meet new people, see a new side of life... and it's been 3 years with ocd... i'm feeling very guilty about potentially hijacking my success by doing something that was fun in the moment but kind of dumb in restropect. :( sending hugs to everyone else struggling
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