Username: EAK

Date posted: 1y ago

Has anyone here recovered from ROCD?

Hi. I was recently diagnosed with ROCD by my therapist. Which is a relief, because I’ve been dealing with intrusive thoughts in all my relationships, but even though I was in therapy, I had never been diagnosed and I didn’t know if there was a name for what I was experiencing. So, we are barely starting to work on it. I’m recently married to a man that has only showed me I can trust him, he re assures me and respects me. But I still tend to have the need to make sure all the time he’s not cheating or lying, paying attention to every single detail. At the same time I have the fear that I’ll ruin my marriage with my obsessions. I don’t want him to know about the diagnosis, cause I feel he’s gonna get scared and run away. Has anyone here recovered from ROCD? How’s life on the other side?

Relationship OCD

Username: Flash ⚡️Flash ⚡️

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y ago

Yes I have! My ROCD was so so bad at one point that I cried every day even at work, like bad crying, feeling devastated and terrified. But now I’m getting married in July! Sometimes I have some ROCD but it is never as bad as it was and it always passes. You’ve got this!

Username: EAKEAK

Date posted: 1y ago

@Flash ⚡️ Mine is about having invasive thoughts of getting cheated on. Everything revolves around that, I pay attention to the smallest details and sometimes that distracts me from paying attention to what I’m actually doing. It’s very frustrating! I’m really making a big effort to work on it.

Username: Flash ⚡️Flash ⚡️

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y ago

@EAK That’s great that you’re working on it! Keep going, the more you work on it, the less it bothers you, the less your OCD will latch onto it

Username: Anonymous<3Anonymous<3

Date posted: 1y ago

@Flash ⚡️ That’s amazing! If you don’t mind me asking, how did you do it? I have been struggling with rocd for over a year and it does come and go but I’m am terrified for the day that my bf proposes. I’ll catch myself daydreaming and excited for it but then idk what I would do if it actually happens. I get discouraged and feel like this is my reality forever :/

Username: Flash ⚡️Flash ⚡️

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y ago

@Yali<3 I worked with my NOCD therapist, did exposures, but mostly I just sat with the discomfort and fear whenever it came, and didn’t give into feeling checking or rumination. Instead I let myself feel the fear and the thoughts and told myself it will pass, and because of that, it did! Also I understand being afraid of the proposal but also excited. I was really excited but also scared and the night he proposed I was super scared but I said yes! Of course my ocd is sometimes upset that it wasn’t as magical as it could’ve been if I wasn’t so scared, but almost a year later after the proposal and I’ve learned to give myself grace and be proud that I said yes, because since then our love has only grown and the wedding planning process has been a lot of fun! You’ve got this!!

Username: EAKEAK

Date posted: 1y ago

@Flash ⚡️ Wow! “Sitting down with the discomfort “ is the part I struggle the most. I have the “temptation” to check on my husband’s location every time we text, that makes me be on fight or flight state. But I’m working on that everyday. I will exercise today sitting down with that discomfort and not react compulsively.

Username: Flash ⚡️Flash ⚡️

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y ago

@EAK Yay good job! Yes even though it’s soo hard, just refuse to give into your compulsion to check his location. Instead just let yourself feel it and don’t feel guilty. Good luck!!

Username: EAKEAK

Date posted: 1y ago

@Flash ⚡️ Thank you!!

Username: Anonymous<3Anonymous<3

Date posted: 1y ago

@Flash ⚡️ I started struggling with these thoughts three years into my relationship. Before then it was amazing. Everything I could ever dream of. Of course we had little arguments here and then like any other and then early 2022 it just really hit me out of no where and I took therapy through here and out of the NOCD app as well. Things were looking so good and I went probably over 7 months feeling great and now this past week has been rough:/ I try to remind myself like you said that it does pass and Iv already decided whether my thoughts are true or not I still choose him. But this awful feeling lingers. I’m so happy that you’ve gotten so far with this struggle. It gives me so much hope❤️ so thank you for sharing with me

Username: Flash ⚡️Flash ⚡️

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y ago

@Yali<3 Thank you for sharing too! Yes!! On the hard days we just need to remember “well I choose to love him today”. 💛

Username: TrinityROCDTrinityROCD

Date posted: 33w ago

@Flash ⚡️ Thank you for this post I myself have relationship OCD and had sexual orientation OCD and I too have cried many of times very hard because the urge is always there to call it off with my significant other. Thoughts came into my head and what not and it is very debilitating. With my faith and regimen of medicine, I have been helped tremendously.

Username: Flash ⚡️Flash ⚡️

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 33w ago

@TrinityROCD That’s great! And you’re welcome! Now I’m getting married in less than 2 months to my fiancé, keep it up!

Username: TrinityROCDTrinityROCD

Date posted: 33w ago

@Flash ⚡️ That’s awesome you’re getting married in less than 2 months to your fiancé! I have been married for 17 years this year to the love of my life all while dealing with ROCD as well! It was a struggle for me before we got married but I had a super awesome counselor and on the right meds. Although sometimes you may doubt your relationship don’t ever lose heart! My trust and faith in God has always gotten me through as well via my prayers and reading scripture! I too hope your day is fantastic as I know it will be. It took me a while to learn this, but love is a choice, and I chose to love my wife for ever and a day and beyond. I would also recommend if needed, The Center, A Place of Hope if you ever need a place to go, I did and it helped my life tremendously. It’s in Washington state. Well I’ve said a lot here but pray for you and your fiancé, I will, take care and God bless you both!!!

Username: Flash ⚡️Flash ⚡️

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 33w ago

@TrinityROCD Thank you! That’s wonderful! I have a church where I live, God guides me through life too. God bless!

Username: overthinker1234overthinker1234

Date posted: 1y ago

hey! I had bad ROCD suddenly and also didn’t know what was happening. I am in a great relationship and when I started getting ROCD symptoms, it was soooo distressing. I looked up my symptoms and came across ROCD which explained a lot but didn’t make things any better. I hated it. I cried about it. But eventually my brain latched onto another obsession. not the best but I did stop doubting my relationship. It’ll get better. it’s just the OCD that won’t let you feel normal about your relationship but you aren’t alone❤️

Username: EAKEAK

Date posted: 1y ago

@overthinker1234 Thank you!

Username: dolfcdolfc

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y ago

Simple answer. Yes. Life is life. Lol. Ups and downs. I have 2 major onset and come out of both stronger. It sucked. I did the work and lived through the hardest times. I am currently in a little blip and it's frustrating but I live my life based on how I want to live. Not what goes on in my silly brain.

Username: EAKEAK

Date posted: 1y ago

@dolfc Thank you!!’

Username: JenniesOCDBrainJenniesOCDBrain

Date posted: 1y ago

hey there, i just wanted to drop in and say that i really feel for you. dealing with intrusive thoughts can be such a heavy weight, and it's so tough when they creep into the relationships that mean the most to us. i've got my own tangle with pure o, and even though our obsessions might be different, that constant questioning and doubt is something i totally get. i'm here to listen if you need to vent or share, okay? i heard about this free ai ocd therapy tool called "unstuck" from my therapist, and it might be a good fit for what you're going through. here's the link: www.AIOCDtool.com. i thought it could be really helpful for you since it's like having a bit of therapy on demand, especially when those urges to check and doubt kick in. it's designed to guide you through those tough moments, step-by-step, like an ocd therapist would. i promise, i'm not the type to push apps on people, but this one has genuinely been a game-changer for me, and i hope it can offer you some relief too. if you've got questions or just want to chat about it, i'm here. sending strength your way! 💪✨

Username: JenniesOCDBrainJenniesOCDBrain

Date posted: 1y ago

hey there, i totally get how tough it can be to grapple with those relentless intrusive thoughts, especially when they're about something as important as your relationship. it's really brave of you to share what you're going through. even though my own battles are with pure o and different obsessions, i can still relate to that exhausting need for certainty and the fear of ruining relationships. just know i'm here to listen and you're not alone in this fight. i heard about this free ai ocd therapy tool from my therapist, called "unstuck" (www.AIOCDtool.com), and it might be a good fit for what you're dealing with. it's designed to help when ocd gets overwhelming, which sounds a lot like what you're experiencing with those constant checks and worries about your husband. you just type in what's bugging you, and it guides you through, kind of like having an ocd therapist in your pocket. i promise i'm not into promoting apps for the sake of it, but this one's been a real game-changer for me, and i genuinely believe it could offer you some relief too. if you've got any questions or just want to chat about it, i'm all ears. 🙂👍 remember, recovery is a journey, and you're taking some important steps. take care.

Username: giuseppe

Date posted: 22w ago

i need advice on how to overcome rocd

hi there! so after i got together with my partner, i found out i have rocd :) it's excruciating and new to me, so i really have no idea how to fight it back. i constantly have thought regarding my feelings towards him bc what if i dont love him? what if I've been pretending all this time? what if i'm confusing love for something else? i also have a really hard time processing positive and happy feelings bc i usually get this punch in my gut, as if I'm not supposed to feel that good feeling (idk if you can relate). well that too makes me believe i dont love my partner and it's really really tiring because I can't stop doubting my feelings. yk how ocd is the doubt illness so I'm used to it, but i am so so so sure that i love him, I've never been so sure about something in my life and i literally doubt everything. but what if I'm just avoiding the truth, what if I won't admit to not love him bc i dont wanna hurt him? who knows anyways it's really exhausting and i could really do some advice. thank you in advace :)

Username: monthofmaiya

Date posted: 21w ago

Rocd even while in a healthy relationship

Hey y’all this is my first post. I’ve known I’ve had ocd for around 6 years now, but haven’t had much specialized help (just a standard therapist, who is great, she suggested this app) I’m mainly just posting to vent and for people to hopefully make me feel a little less alone in my current situation. I’ve developed coping skills for many of my ocd obsessions in the past, but haven’t really made a dent in what I’m realizing is pretty bad ROCD. I was in an abusive relationship for about 4 years, and it was this weird thing where like I would not only be unhappy from the abuse but also have intense ROCD. Which is relevant, because I’m now in a super happy and healthy relationship, but am unfortunately still experiencing ROCD. And of COURSE that makes my brain feel either like love is just never going to work out for me, or that this new relationship is wrong for me, which I know isn’t the case. But it’s just so exhausting feeling like I have this horrible brain fog around my partner half the time. I never felt like this when my partner and I were just best friends for 6 months, and all that’s changed is that she is even sweeter and more attentive to me. This just all sucks so bad, and I think I should talk to a specialist about it.

Username: Pablo1

Date posted: 19w ago

New on here. not formally diagnosed. ROCD Success?

Hi all, recently became stuck on the idea of my wife and I splitting up, and the impact on our dynamic and our child. We have a very healthy relationship, and have been together over a decade. I love her completely and am typically a golden retriever type partner. She's everything to me and then some, which is why these thoughts are so distressing. I've never done therapy, and recently tried antidepressants which spiked my anxiety through the roof so I stopped. I've been dealing with with this for about 3 months. In my constant googling I came across Pure O and ROCD, and based on all I've read seems to align with my experience. This may be reassurance seeking, but would love to celebrate success stories of others who have been able to overcome the intrusive thoughts and find peace. This feels like such a lonely subtype because I can't fully share with and lean on my best friend who I'm used to telling everything to. I'm also not used to needing support. I'm usually the supporter.

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