Hey guys, question

I was wondering if it’s normal to have the following thoughts or feelings: - feeling scared or nervous to hangout with partner - feeling like things won’t work out -constant fear of falling out of love. - feel like you absolutely want to break up - feel like it’s not going to get better - annoyed with partner, - constantly crying because of it And overall. I’m tired and feel like nothing is going to get better. I feel like I’m a horrible person.

Anonymous

Date posted: 21h

hi! i struggle with pretty much everything you listed. i’ve found out how much of our relationship problems have stemmed from me having OCD. it’s extremely exhausting some days and there’s always guilt at the end of it. you’re not your thoughts! i hope it gets better.

Anonymous

Date posted: 21h

I would be careful with this post, because it is reassurance seeking, which is one thing we absolutely want to avoid in ERP therapy. Just this once, I will tell you. Yes. It is "normal" (for those with ROCD). It is called Relationship themed OCD. If you haven't, get some ERP therapy, practice non-engagement techniques, and love yourself. Relationships are important to most people, and OCD loves to attach to things that are important to you. Give yourself and your partner some compassion and forgiveness, take a deep breath, and give your best attempt at stopping seeking certainty.

Z3NITH

Date posted: 21h

@Anonymous Thank you- and I will try to stop seeking reassurance and certainty…cuz I know it will start the cycle over. :)

Anonymous

Date posted: 21h

@Z3NITH Thats good, you are doing great. OCD is exhausting and frankly terrifying. But it is possible to overcome it. Im working through it currently. Its a long, but worthwhile process. Do this for you, and your partner, and I hope you make incredible progress!

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