Feeling lost and stuck

Hi just live, I can completely relate to this. You are not alone. It is true that yes, many types of wounds never heal completely both physical and emotional. And living in the past is NOT the same thing as being affected by your wounds. I heard from someone wise that "If you can overcome your failure, then you can individuate". The latter comes from doing the former, not the reverse. We all would like to "individuate" and become who we think we are meant to be a priori and flourish among good friends and good situations, as in that's the first thing we all want to do. So I think that's where your desire to be where you are not right now could be coming from. It;s actually a fairly common human trait. The main thing to remember is that overcoming your "failure" is not the same thing as overcoming your "failures" plural. If it were about overcoming all of your "failures", it would mean you would have to go back in time with foresight and change everything you don't like about yourself. But no. Even if that were somehow possible, that is not what is asked of us as humans. Rather, it is "Failure" as in singular, on the other hand, that is what we need to overcome as human beings. Failure is not one specific incident or mistake. It is what you are living in right now. It is that which is on us. It is the reality we swim in if we cannot overcome our fears of losing. Fear is the direct result of feeling like you are going to lose, and courage gives rise to the feeling that you are going to win. Fear can be both the fruit of death and more often than not it is a cause of death. Therefore, if you make a strong determination to overcome your feelings about death that are past, present and future, than you will find in yourself a brand new soul. You will find that the past does not bother you as much and that the future does not scare you half as much. As per usual, it is good to start in the present. Overcoming failure means overcoming the fear of failure and the feeling that you failed. It means self forgiveness and self compassion as well as compassion for others and gratitude for them. It is really powerful. And it is scary, always scary to do in the moment. That is how it always is. I know that your life is good and that you will make it. You absolutely deserve the best things in life. Summon up your courage and your gratitude and don't be afraid of letting go of things. I know you can do it. I hope that helps.