Chat GPT told me its more likely comphet than ocd Idk im scared Im scared that if i accept the uncertainty to know the truth once and for all 1) i end up actually turning out to be lesbian 2) I lose the guy i love (or i think i love idk atp) Iām remembering so many moments of same sex attractions from when i was little Im so scared im so scared Its too much
dont listen to chatgpt or any ai for advice, especially not for your mental or physical health. ai is most of the time a total crapshoot that spews misinformation
Ah the common Chat GPT compulsion! Well, Chat GPT is not a human, it doesn't know your life story or your Ocd history, and Chat GPT is often inaccurate. It's never a reliable source to use for anything
@OneDayAtATimee But i tell him every thought so he must know
@Lost in the sauce - I understand :) but Chat GPT is not a "him," as its not a real person, its only an automated robot. It doesn't actually know who you are, friend. This robot feeds you responses based on random info it finds on the internet. It easily misdiagnoses people, as it probably has already with you by saying you don't have sexual orientation Ocd. Chat GPT also is not up to date on research in general and it can't even solve a lot of math problems lol. AI also creates images of people with 7 fingers on one hand š You shouldnāt trust these newly created technologies for important medical issues
@OneDayAtATimee HAHAHAHA thank u i rlly needed this š©·
@Lost in the sauce LOL š youāre so welcome ā¤ļøš Haha
Youāre engaging in compulsions but tell me more about your soocd and when it started? Have you had any other ocd theme before or presently?
@Ms.shelovesfrogs The thing is im not diagnosed with ocd. But yes previously i would have debilitating health anxiety. And idk if ROCD or just im not straight. As for my story i just posted in in my feed if u d like to check it.
Comphet is a term that I feel has been taken completely out of control in our culture. Iām queer and bi, and I understand why the term got created (emphasis on *created*) in order to help a population of people understand painful experiences of falling into societal expectations. However, once we start trying to dissect our own motivations and label our behaviors and desires as not our own, you can spend your entire life analyzing yourself instead of living your life and accepting some gray area. Like sure, maybe we got tricked into being bisexual instead of lesbian because of media and because no one else in my family married someone of the same sex. But also, maybe I never would have started drinking coffee if caffeine dependence wasnāt so normalized in our culture. Maybe if I decide that caffeine is making my life worse, I can stop drinking coffee. But I donāt need to write a history book on the coffee bean trade and read peopleās horrific experiences about caffeine dependence and withdrawal on Reddit for hours in order to try to figure out where my dependence on caffeine really came from. Do I like drinking coffee? Yeah, it tastes good. (Also idk if this is a great analogy because I drink coffee like 3-4 times a week lol) All Iām saying is if comphet is something that feels empowering to your experience and motivates you to think deeper in a meaningful way, amazing. If itās something that feels like the biblical template you must project onto your experience in order to try arrive at the ācorrectā conclusions about yourself, I think this is doing more harm than good. And perhaps itās not even the point of the existence of this idea in the first place. And itās perfect fodder for OCD.
I cant afford therapy which is why iām not diagnosed with ocd. The first time i had heard what ocd was truly abt was 6 years ago when i overthinking my sexual identity and it fit. Additionally, i struggle with debilitating health anxiety and when i was in a rlt i was extremely anxious that i might not love my partner. This is the third year i experience distress around my sexuality but this year it feels real. And it could also explain my rlt anxiety. Comphet is a concept that really scares me. I dont want to be with a girl. I would rather die than discover i was lesbian. I cant accept uncertainty cz i dont want to be homosexual. Chat GPT told me it wasnt ocd + the thoughts dont distress me anymore. I experience 3 intense weeks of anxiety prior to now. Maybe its internalized homophobia. Maybe its comphet. I do find women to be attractive but i dont wanna be with them. Maybe iām in denial. Idk anything anymore. Iām remembering times where i would find an actress attractive and try to shift my focus towards the man cz it would make me anxious. Iām not well at all.
I am very depressed right now. I really feel like maybe Iāve always been a lesbian and never knew. I never questioned my sexuality when I was young, never wanted to explore, I just was straight and didnāt think anything about it, thatās just what it was. I had my first soocd spiral in late high school but didnāt have a name for it, just that I was having intrusive thoughts and it was killing me that maybe I was gay. I canāt exactly remember how I got out of that but I continued to have crushes, talking stages, and dated. It went away and that was that I guess. Looking back now I definitely was still avoiding content and certain people, and still had intrusive thoughts but didnāt think I was gay. I guess they were less sticky. Something about me is that Iāve never had a boyfriend and Iām a virgin. Iām very shy and romanticize things like I love the relationships and scenarios I read about or that I see in movies or the thirst traps online haha. So I want that irl but am disappointed when that doesnāt happen. I have a very interactive daydream (started when I was 13 and still continued that fantasy world now too) with a boyfriend, friends, and a prettier version of me. I enjoyed making up scenarios about sex or romance in those daydreams and fantasies, but when it came to real life, I would get shy or scared when things were starting to get serious with men. I thought maybe this was an avoidant attachment style but now Iām not sure. I never considered female fantasies and I still donāt want to right now. I want to test and see which one I like better, but Iām afraid Iāll find that Iām a lesbian and I really donāt want that. Ive always imagined myself with a man but now Iām worried about comphet. Iām really depressed and I canāt tell because yes, I find some women attractive whether itās their makeup, face, body, aesthetic, but I never thought that meant I was attracted to them in a sexual or romantic way until this spiral. Now Iām afraid of masc lesbians and pretty women because it triggers me. But Iām also afraid because I feel like I can look at attractive men, but I donāt feel the same way anymore. I canāt even daydream about them bc then my brain inserts a woman. Iām really scared that Iāve lost myself, because I truly feel like I have, but I donāt want to explore with women, I just want to like men, Iāve always liked that idea. But so many lesbians talk about liking celebrities, fantasy men, or just attractive men. Sorry for the rant but Iām struggling a lot right now. I feel like all my memories, even the ones that directly contradict being a lesbian, can be explained away by comphet, internal homophobia, denial, suppression, etc. When I do try and accept uncertainty, sometimes it feels ok, but then something will trigger me and Iām back at square one. Iām afraid if I take my meds Iāll discover something about myself that I donāt want to because Iāve always been depressed and avoidant of life because it never lives up to my expectations. My sexuality is on my mind 24/7! I canāt take it!
signs of comphet (comphet is when lesbians who donāt know it and just follow norms and believe there straight) ive felt: āI never really felt anything when kissing boys and totally thought that was normalā¦ I talk to men, go on dates, but I think itās to keep my life āinterestingā and have something to talk about with friends.ā ā¢ lack of deep, natural emotional connection ā¢ trying to replay moments where i āfeltā something with my boyfriend (probably arousal or excitement from being wanted, not actual sexual/romantic attraction) to again remind myself of my āattractionā towards themā¢ talking about my boyfriend to other people made me feel ācoolā, āworthyā, āinterestingā and felt like a way to prove myself ā¢ being able to clearly articulate all the reasons I liked a guy crush/my boyfriend (heās smart, funny, kind, handsome, etc) whereas with a girl crush I canāt exactly put my finger on why I like them but Iām just naturally drawn to them ā¢ never missing my exes or feeling heartbroken about them (i would feel sad from being lonely and no longer having that daily routine of having someone to talk to, but didnāt necessarily miss that specific person) ā¢ i was always very hesitant about ābecoming officialā with a guy i would be seeing and would make him wait before deciding to date because i ādidnāt know if i really liked him or notā (i didnāt!) only being aroused by their desire for me (this is what made me figure out I was a lesbian). ā¢ Thinking I was cooler than other girls because I didn't spend any time thinking about how cute boys were or being "boy-crazy". I was under the impression for a while that I must just be less shallow than other people because I didn't really take looks into account when I had a crush on a boy, I only factored in their personality. Turns out this is called not being attracted to men and just wanting to be their friend! XD iām scared my experiences with men have been only comphet because they all align with this. like when i had my hocd break for two years and went back to men it aligns with comphet so now im like was me going back to men not genuine and im actually lesbian. but itās like have i been emotionally or romantically actually attracted to a man or has it been comphet and i havenāt and i just did it because i thought i should like my sister or friends
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