ROCD & Limerence addiction

I feel like my brain needs to chase dopamine. I’m currently in a long term relationship but I notice myself chasing male attention at work and fantasizing about if my coworker can bring me more joy than my current partner. Deep down inside I know that I love my partner and he’s the only person I want to be with but right now I feel so miserable. I feel like if I dont seek reassurance (watching videos on this topic, scrolling through reddit) then my mind will start to think that I need to leave my partner. I’ve been struggling with ROCD for over a year now and I’m wondering if I should even be with my partner since this has been going on for so long. I dont know how to accept the fact that my relationship isn’t going to feel like how it did in the beginning.

Relationship OCD

godvilla25

Date posted: 2d ago

Limerence is a power play. Once you start realizing that when you FEEL OUT OF CONTROL you default to trying to win, is when you’ll be able to get over this humo you’re in.

caitlin1322

Date posted: 2d ago

Hi sweet friend! You’re not alone, I go through a similar struggle with my partner. You’re brave to acknowledge it, and I think your acknowledgment is a great step towards getting clarity for yourself. I’m here (along with many other folks but I can only speak for myself) if you ever need a listening ear! 🫶🏻

User type: Therapist

Date posted: 2d ago

Hi Bruhhh! Sounds like you're having a really hard time. Struggling with ROCD for over a year can be quite challenging, indeed! Especially considering how distressed you appear to be at the thought of possibly needing to end your relationship. It's worth noting, no relationship will ever feel the same day in and out, just like we will never feel the same. Just as we're supposed to keep growing and developing, so too do our relationships. Have you connected with any of the therapists here at NOCD? We can create specifically tailored ERPs for you to practice so you're able to have the relationship you want with your partner without having OCD trying to convince you otherwise. How does that sound?

User type: Therapist

Date posted: 2d ago

Hello bruhhh, OCD loves to target what is important to us in our lives, and makes us doubt and question those values. With ROCD, it is the relationship that is the focus of OCD, making us question if this is the "right person" for me. The goal of OCD is to get certainty about the relationship, which is impossible. Relationships develop and change naturally over time, so it is impossible to have certainty. Have you tried sitting with uncertainty? If you are struggling with this and are caught in a cycle of questioning the things you love, those of us at NOCD are experts in the treatment of OCD using Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP). ERP is the gold standard of treatment for OCD and related conditions. If you are interested in connecting with a clinician at NOCD to begin a journey of recovery, don't hesitate to reach out to our advocacy team at care@nocdhelp.com. I hope this message reaches you well and know that at NOCD, we are always here to help! Take care, Ian M. Reeder

sgray4

Date posted: 22w ago

Relationship doubts

I’ve been struggling with relationship OCD and differentiating between what is an intrusive thought and what is a real doubt. I was really happy with my partner then I got one aggressive thought that I didn’t love him and this spiralled into noticing all his flaws. I struggle being around him because I feel a huge sense of guilt that these thoughts even come into my head and I cannot figure out if this is my brain lying to me or this is how I feel. It’s really impacting a relationship that is so important to me.

Relationship OCD

Kas_C

Date posted: 15w ago

Relationship OCD

I’ve just recently found out that Relationship OCD is a thing. I feel like I relate but it also feels like relationship trauma. I’m in a fairly new relationship and I keep telling myself that things are going great, we are good, he cares for me, but does he? There’s this unbelievable amount of self doubt that sits in me because of what my ex did to me many months ago. I kept getting told that I do too much, i smother, need constant reassurance, then got told that I don’t care enough, the things I do aren’t enough and that I’m not enough. I feel like I am waiting for the day that I get broken up with because of these “problems” just so I can be proven right at the fact that I should be considered unlovable. I go through this every month around my period because I get so emotional and nervous that I stress over the idea that he doesn’t like me. How does someone continue a relationship with Relationship OCD? How do I explain it?

Anonymous

Date posted: 8w ago

Relationship obsessions

I'm struggling really hard with relationship obsessions. Do I really love my partner? How can I know? Am I really just faking it? That kind of thing. It's making my life and relationship a lot harder than they need to be. I could use a few helpful coping mechanisms, trying to move away from less helpful ones like chasing reassurance.

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