- Username
- Anonymous243
- Date posted
- 29w ago
Porn and rocd
Am I crazy for thinking that my boyfriend watching porn is cheating?
- Username
- Ellie…Ellie…
- Date posted
- 29w ago
If you set the boundary that watching porn makes you uncomfortable and he does it anyways, then no.
- Username
- Anonymous243Anonymous243
- Date posted
- 29w ago
@Ellie… Thank you
- Username
- RKRowton2005RKRowton2005
- Date posted
- 29w ago
No, because it literally is. How is it any different from him paying a call girl? Don’t let anyone gas light you into thinking this has to do with OCD just because you have a basic moral standard for your relationship.
- Username
- Anonymous243Anonymous243
- Date posted
- 29w ago
@RKRowton2005 Thank you. Its hard to tell whether its a moral or ocd or both. I think its a moral but ocd has definitely latched on to it and caused me lots of compulsions around it.
- Username
- BigGyro09BigGyro09
- Date posted
- 29w ago
Definitely not crazy. This is very understandable and you should communicate these feelings with your partner. Some couples may not be bothered by this and others might. Tell him how this makes you feel and the boundary you set will go from there. If he continues to do this anyway, then there is more of a cause for concern in my opinion.
- Username
- Anonymous243Anonymous243
- Date posted
- 29w ago
@BigGyro09 Thank you this makes a lot of sense ❤️
- Username
- Miss.OCDMiss.OCD
- Date posted
- 29w ago
You’re not crazy at all. You’re dealing with an obsession. Masturbation in both men and women is very important. It is proven to relieve stress, improve intimacy with your partner and also give you an opposite to explore your own pleasures. As long as it is not taking away from yours and your partners sex life how he chooses to pleasure himself, may be through watching porn. However if this doesn’t upset you communicate it with your partner
- Username
- Anonymous243Anonymous243
- Date posted
- 29w ago
@Miss.OCD Thank you 🙏❤️
- Username
- ChibeeChibee
- Date posted
- 29w ago
Nope not crazy, this is a reasonable response to your partner essentially deriving pleasure from someone other than you and, possibly, “someone” who can meet sexual wants you may not be comfortable with. Some may be okay with this—it depends on the couple. But if it’s been established that this is NOT appropriate, then he should absolutely not be consuming porn. Even if you didn’t establish it beforehand, I’d still say you’re reasonable in being upset. It’s you finding out something about your partner’s values that you didn’t know before, something maybe you’re not comfortable with. It can be jarring.
- Username
- Anonymous243Anonymous243
- Date posted
- 29w ago
@chibiyu Thank you for commenting. I feel a lot less crazy when you put it that way, it can definitely be jarring. I just wish my ocd didnt latch onto it in the way it did because its already hard enough without ocd.
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- Date posted
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