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I don’t even think this is OCD I’m just looking for advice on this: I fancy females but the thought of sex with them makes me anxious, nervous, guilty and sick why is that, also I’m a male.
I don’t even think this is OCD I’m just looking for advice on this: I fancy females but the thought of sex with them makes me anxious, nervous, guilty and sick why is that, also I’m a male.
What kind of advice are you looking for? Advice on whether this anxiety is OCD-related? Or advice on understanding your sexuality?
@fruitbat42069 Both plz
@ Anonymous So, i think a good litmus test for understanding if it’s OCD or not is how thoughts make you feel. It sounds like it could be OCD because feeling anxious, nervous, guilty, and sick are all very common feelings about thoughts that we have obsessions about. Then, if it’s a recurring or “intrusive thought” that you don’t want to be there. If the thoughts you feel go against your character, and therefore make you feel awful and upset, that’s a good indication that it could be OCD.
Yeah I understand thankyou, I don’t think it’s OCD related I just think it’s the thought of sex and the male being the provider in sex kinda is what I’m nervous for I guess? But is that me questioning my sexuality I don’t know
@ Anonymous No, that sounds more like performance anxiety. Which is super normal. It’s stressful to feel like you have to have a good sexual experience. You don’t have to. Sex for the first time with anyone is always different and could be not that great. And that’s ok!
@fruitbat42069 Okay thanks perhaps that’ll put my mind at ease a little thankyou
As for understanding your sexuality, it can be really difficult to understand and can take time and different experiences and reflection to really feel confident about. I’ve heard many times tho and agree with the fact that sexuality can be fluid and change a little bit over time for different folks and through different experiences. If you’ve never had sex before, it could just be that you’re afraid of the act of sex because of it’s taboo in culture or the risks it has or many other reasons. People all have different relationships with sex, and that’s ok. You don’t have to shame or push yourself into liking anything that you don’t want, but it’s also okay to explore and try new things, so long as you’re consenting and so is the other person.
@fruitbat42069 Yes thankyou for the comment that has helped perhaps it’s become even more difficult with my problems that are occurring for the last 2 years, but thankyou for this.
@ Anonymous Of course. I’m glad my comments could help you out a little. Good luck 🫡
@fruitbat42069 Thankyou
Sexuality is fluid. I think @fruitbat42069 said it perfectly.
So I identify as a lesbian and I am in a committed relationship with a wonderful girl. But i’m stressing that I have crushes on boys I go to school with. I get anxious around them, which I think I mistake for excitement. I obsess over it in my head which confuses me a lot. Idk I also never think about them sexually or romantically but I think about them often which is scaring me. Any advice?
I feel so ridiculous saying this. Has anyone struggled with looking down a people’s private areas since having ocd. I hate it, but feel I have to look or find myself just looking. I feel so guilty after and especially when it’s a women I kinda shudder after like why did I just do that. Ugh I hate this. I never used to have this issue but now I’m focusing on it my anxiety is going crazy with it . If people have experienced, how did you get over this??? My sexual orientation is thriving off this . I hate it
I need too know that I'm not insane, really. I am 16 and for the past two weeks, this has been completely ruining my health and happiness. I only recently came out as a lesbian like 3 months ago after a lot of confusion about my attraction since I used to think I liked men. At first, I felt so sure that I liked women, but lately, I've been having these unwanted thoughts about the possibility of liking men. I never used to feel this way, but now, every time I look at a man, my brain obsessively fixates on it. It forces me to imagine kissing him, loving him, things I don’t want, and then tries to convince me that I do. It’s painful. The thought of this fills me with fear and anxiety, leading to panic attacks and breakdowns. I don’t want these thoughts. I hate them with every fiber of my being, but I’m terrified that one day I’ll act on them and somehow like it. I used to think I liked men, but back then, I was in a very unhealthy space in a time of escapism and something deeply parasocial. I’ve only ever liked the attention and validation a man could give me, but these experiences are somehow treated as further proof that I’m "bisexual." I’ve never been in a real relationship with anyone, which makes my brain constantly challenge me—telling me, “You don’t even know what love feels like.” It won’t shut up. It keeps obsessively trying to make me prove that I’m a lesbian, testing my reactions and questioning my certainty. Is this normal?
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