I’m kinda laughing at myself because I’m extremely disappointed that I just now found out that seeking reassurance doesn’t help anything…y’all wanna guess why I’ve been scrolling this app for the last hour and a half? … welp someone tell me what to do because it’s the only thing that seems to help me…
Ohmygod do I understand this post! I know EXACTLY how you’re feeling. So the reason it makes you feel better is because it’s active reassurance seeking. Even if you don’t realise it. And it becomes a compulsion because it helps stop the anxiety. Unfortunately I’m order to move on from This we have to just accept the anxiety and uncertainty. I’m still working on that myself as I still struggle alot with it. But it does help self soothe. I’ve found if I’m just a casual viewer on this app and help other people on posts, it helps me as I’m not reassurance seeking but I’m offering kindness and understanding to people and therefore it helps me be kind and understanding to myself? Hope this helps 😀
@katieR94 Research is my compulsion I cannot believe I didn’t know this earlier and I even more cannot believe that my therapist never thought to tell me that my literal compulsion was feeding back into my pocd
@Luv.sixd I know it’s Just silly. Try listening to Nathan Petersons channel called OCD and Anxiety - on YouTube. It has helped me soooooo much! And so has ALI GREYMOND on YouTube! Give it a go! You won’t be disappointed 😁
I’m on this app rn probably for research compulsions too at like 5 am and I haven’t slept- and yeah it’s one of my “better” ways of easing the anxiety, it’s like instant reassurance. It’s addictive in some cases, especially the community. I feel like my other compulsion might be doing what I’m currently doing which is trying to give advice or help or whatever. Blah blah- It’s good at least that you recognize it, but like you shouldn’t feel bad for not recognizing it as a compulsion. Hell you shouldn’t feel bad for giving into a compulsion even. It takes a lot more then just a day to wean ocd off of reassurance especially when the “danger” feels like it’s knocking from inside. I suppose the good thing about this app is that it “warns” you about posting so much. Just take a moment to ponder what it says before making a move. Think like… “do I realllllyyy need to tell people this.”
i totally get this, i used to do it with reddit before as well. I deleted it for my own good, i would scroll on it the second i woke up.
I can’t stop crying because I can’t find joy in anything. I’m trying to distract my mind before I have my 15 min, free phone call tomorrow but I just keep crying. I hate this feeling so much, I want to go to my mom and ask for reassurance that I’m okay and I’ll be fine but I don’t want her to ask me what I’ve been thinking lately. I’m afraid it’ll cause me an even bigger panic attack or something. My brain is searching for some type of reassurance that I’ll be okay, but I can’t find it. I keep thinking no one will understand me and that they’ll think I’m crazy. Anyways, I’ll try to sleep.
One fun thing about what I’ve experienced is that even if I go to people for reassurance, more often than not it doesn’t help and makes things worse. I see how from an outside perspective it looks like denial and the moment I open my mouth to talk about it the instant thought is “you’re faking it, you know it’s true and you’re faking it”. And it’s great when people say maybe you are this or that like it’s no big deal, …but it is? And then again it’s like maybe they see something I don’t?
I regret researching every single day🫠 In the beginning, I thought searching for similar stories to my own would help ease my fears, but my mind ended up latching onto their worries, which only heightened the anxiety I had before. There were worries I didn't have, and now I do.
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