I'm learning to accept God's love as unconditional. I want this love to inspire me to do good but am afraid that without guilt or fear as a motivation I will end up not caring. Is this a facet of my OCD that I should just ignore or is it a logical concern?
Hi - glad to see you on here again! So this is probably a common concern, but definitely not logical. I say this because our relationship with God is based on grace. As we get to know Him more we see that everything is based on His love for us. Even God Himself is love. 1 John 4:18 says “There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear. For fear has to do with punishment...” So the more we accept and believe His love for us, the more fear goes away. Being motivated by fear at all is not what God wants for us. Our relationship with Him should be one of joy.....as we get to know Him, His fruits become evident - which are love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. (Galatians 5:22-23) Notice that fear is NOT one of them....in fact the very first one listed is love - which casts out fear. I hope this helps!
I don’t know if you’re getting counseling for ocd or not. I have been with NOCD for two years and it has been a huge help. I became a Christian when I was 18. That is when I came to believe in the Lord Jesus and had my sins ( the things I’ve done wrong) forgiven. As the Gospel of John chapter 1 verse 12 says “But as many as received Him (the Lord Jesus) to them He gave the right to become children of God even to those who believe in His name. I am now 63. I’ve had ocd since my 20’s not knowing what it was but it skyrocketed 2 years ago and that was when i started getting counseling for ocd. I have learned to not interpret how God works through my ocd but to interpret how God works through the Bible. When we come know God He helps us to live a life to please Him. Romans chapter 8 verse 1 says “Therefore there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus. I have to make sure I don’t let my “feelings” or what” I think” guide me but to keep to the Bible as my guide.
Hey guys does anyone know how to not let moral scrupulosity control your life? Because when the compulsions are moral I feel like it’s harder to interpret whether indulging in them is a good or a bad thing. Even when I can tell it’s definitely OCD it’ll start making me think “wow you’re not even gonna give it a chance? It’s bad that you’re not thinking about it more this could be more serious than you think!” Any advice?
My whole life I’ve found reasons to not like myself. Whether I thought I was weird or ugly or overweight. Because of this, I’ve always sought the acceptance of others which sometimes made me do things, that looking back, wasn't who I really wanted to be (drinking, being intimate with someone, saying I like things that I don't, not standing up for myself, etc.). OCD hasn’t made liking myself any easier. The awful thoughts and false memories have made me dislike myself more because they’ve made me feel like a disgusting monster. They’ve made me feel like I don’t even know who I am, which is extra scary because even without OCD, I’ve struggled with that as mentioned above. OCD has tried filling in the gaps and has preyed upon my insecurities and it's terrifying. Now that I’m taking the steps to learn to love myself, OCD is gripping on even harder. It tells me I don’t deserve love because maybe my false memories are true or I don’t deserve love because of the horrible thoughts I have. It's really hard honestly, but I know I need to keep trying. I also wonder had I loved myself before, would I have even had an OCD problem? Because maybe if I loved myself and knew what a good person I was, the thoughts would have never gripped on? I don't know. Be kind to yourselves. It certainly is a journey.
Hey! I read that in order to better manage my OCD and be less worried all the time, I have to be okay with uncertainty. For me, it's coming to term with the fact that I might be attracted to a man someday (I'm a lesbian) even though the thought feels terrifying. I don't have anything against men or against bisexual people obviously it's just not who I am and I'm so so afraid of losing my identity. Anyone got tips on how to be okay with accepting that you can't be 100% sure your worst fear won't turn out to be true?
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