Pressure on relationship

Does anyone else feel that there is a lot of pressure on them that might reinforce their OCD? My family love my boyfriend, my best friend is very close to him and i’m very close to his family. When i’m in a bad spiral, which i am currently, I stress over the fact that I might be in my relationship because there’s so much pressure to not split up and people might not like my next partner as much. We’ve been together almost 4 years and I lapse in and out of ROCD. At the moment i’m in a bad spike and this is really on my mind.

Relationship OCD

Username: marsmith98marsmith98

Date posted: 49w ago

Pressure definitely contributes to OCD, especially around the things you care about since OCD always latches onto what we value most. All the “what if” thoughts are rumination, which is a compulsion. You’re trying to eliminate the uncertainty. It helps to anchor yourself in the parts of the relationship that you’re grateful for. Instead of worrying about (potential) external pressure, try to focus more on the things you love about your partner to ground yourself.

Username: AnonymousAnonymous

Date posted: 50w ago

I'm struggling with this too. I just started considering OCD as an explanation for spiraling and ruminating obsessively over my partner. I'm still struggling to grapple with being hard-wired this way or if it's a compulsion that can be treated...or am I just constantly gaslighting myself? Sorry, I ended up venting on your post. I hope someone delivers you a more adequate answer or advice.

Username: relatablethoughts relatabletho...

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 49w ago

I thought that I was the only one who felt this way but you put my thoughts into words for sure bc I feel the same way with my boyfriend. We have been tg for almost 2 years and I feel like part of the reason is because of pressure even though I know its not but its just a fear that it is if that makes sense? its like I love that everyone loves him and is involved but I hate it too just bc of my ocd and its like "what would everyone think of me or him if we broke up" or just shit like that. And same I feel like my ocd has been so bad lately just bc I am bored and unemployed atm.

Username: Anonymous

Date posted: 22w ago

ROCD

Anybody with ROCD question if it’s really ROCD or if you are in a “bad” relationship compared to your friends? ( I know comparison is an exacerbating habit for ocd). I feel great with partner and then maybe remeber any negatives and ignore the positives about our dynamic. I’ll latch onto something he said that hurt my feelings and wonder if I’m in an abusive relationship and spiral. I’ll totally ignore anything nice he’s ever done and convince myself I’m in a mediocre relationship. I’ll assume he should be texting me more and express his feelings towards me more. Anyone else?

Username: Haleehere

Date posted: 20w ago

ROCD

Has anyone ever struggled with ROCD & then went through a legitimate troubled period in their relationship? (Where the ROCD may have been a factor) I know all relationships have their ups and downs, but personally the downs for me are much harder than I would assume the average girl because I obsess over whether it means we aren’t good for eachother, if it makes us a toxic relationship, etc

Username: Nocd1997!

Date posted: 17w ago

ROCD

Hi friends! I am someone who struggles with general OCD but have recently come to question if it is more specific to my relationship(s). In my heart, I feel that I am currently in the most loving, fulfilling and safe relationship that I have ever been in but lately things have been rocky. I find myself questioning a lot. Examples being: Is he really the one for me? What if I am missing out on something even better? Am I actually happy or am I lying to myself? Is this relationship doomed/am I doomed to be miserable in the future due to our age difference (met at 25 & 32, currently 27 & 35) I find myself trying to pick him apart more often than not lately, almost as though I am looking for something to fixate on in attempt to reassure myself of some of my already negative thoughts? I’m just curious if anyone out there that struggles with ROCD finds any similarities to the thoughts I am having? Sending love!

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