Rape victim

my dad is scaring me saying I’m gonna go to jail if I’m 18 and still dating my gf, my gf is two years younger than me, I mean he didn’t necessarily say that but I feel like he did, because I don’t understand, I’m so scared I’m gonna go to jail or I’m doing something wrong… please let me know, I do not know law stuff.

So, I’m not sure if this happened, but if it did I wanna be a good person if it did or didnt happen. I talked to the RAAIN hotline and they said they couldn’t tell me so now I’m more scared. I’m panicking rn and i just need someone to talk to. I said something that was inappropriate to say to my younger cousin. I didn’t realize my actions until after and I feel so terrible and I think I’m gonna turn myself in. It was a inappropriate sexual joke that I didn’t think before I spoke and I read that intent doesn’t matter when it’s sexual harassment and you can still do it without the intent which made me spiral yesterday. I just woke up and I can’t deal with this. Please someone tell me. My younger cousin obvi didn’t feel uncomfortable and I’m not sure if she even heard but still it can be sexual harassment and that’s what makes me scared. We have a good relationship and she sees me as an older sister which makes me feel more guilty. I feel I deserve this guilt and the bad things that happened to me when I was a child doesn’t matter anymore since I’m just as bad. I didn’t mean to and I feel terrible. Did I sexually harass????

For context the age of consent where I am is 18. So I was on grindr me being (16) and was going to hookup with a guy who I thought was (21). Now I know this was an incredibly dumb and illegal decision as I have dealt with the consequences of it. I was feeling so low in my life and struggling with family matters and other people my age used drinking or smoking as an out although for me I hooked up with guys as my out. At this time my anxiety disorder and ocd were at an all time high and I had no therapy sessions to help keep me stable. I also dealt with my toxic family everyday more and more. So then I hooked up with him and after we were done and chilling in his car he asked “What if I told you I wasn’t 21” and of course I’m like what the fuck (he knew I was 16 and even hearted my message of me saying that) I ask him multiple times what he meant by that and to clarify on his real age and he quoted my Bio on Grindr which was “no older than 21” inferring that he knew and lied to me about his age because of my bio limit which is disgusting. He tells me he’ll tell me his real age on two conditions, the first being I give him $7 for gas and the second I meet with him again I said yes not meaning it just to get him to answer and gave him the $7. He then told me he was 27. I was like what the fuck? you lied to me and he played innocent sarcastically “what are you talking about” you told me you were 21 and not 27 and he said “haha typo” like what the fuck. Of course after I felt absolute shit and garbage because he manipulated me into sleeping with him when he was 27 and not 21 and also extorted me for money. I feel disgusted and used with myself. I reported this to the ER and got checked there and reported it to the police after although nothing has been done and it’s been 3 weeks. I just don’t know what to consider the situation as. What would you consider it as? This caused me to go into a three day depression in which I could barely function. If I had known he was 27 I would not have slept with him or consented.