certain situation i feel bad about

this post is 18+ so please only read if that’s the category you fall into. there’s this one girl i met on a social media app, and we interacted all that and we sexted a few times. she sent me a photo at some point as well (it’s in our chats but like i’m not the kind of guy to save it and start sharing it around) and on this app she had it on her bio to not interact with her if you fall into x y z reasons. now i think i remembering seeing this a while ago and either not caring, thinking i don’t fall into those things or not giving it much thought or all 3. but either way, it happened. i looked at it again recently and thought like, i don’t know for sure if i fall into those things but i know she would likely see it as that, or i do fall into those things which one probably isn’t good and two i feel like would be unfair to her, knowing she wouldn’t have wanted to do any of that if she knew. i don’t know if im overthinking this, also she doesn’t always directly like initiate or message me so if we stop talking then its like fine because we weren’t even close at all it was mainly just a for fun thing, but i have this thing where if something bothers me so deeply i’ll have to admit it to someone, but if i say anything i know it’ll just make stuff worse just to relieve guilt. so let me know, i dont know if this falls exactly into the OCD criteria but i wanna know honestly do i apologize, just stop talking to her, or what because already i think im gonna stop interacting with her but i just feel bad about it idk. or am i thinking too deeply into this. thank you for reading and i would appreciate some advice about this! thanks

Anonymous

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: Yesterday

I think you’re thinking way too deeply into this and it’s OCD most people would’ve read her bio once and never went back to look again but going back and you wanting to confess by apologizing and/or avoiding the person very much sounds like compulsions and honestly apologizing or leaving both aren’t great options because they can fall under compulsions so I think you should do whatever you would do if you weren’t worried about this so if you weren’t worried about falling into these categories would you still continue interacting with her or not just pretend the bio stuff doesn’t even exist and whatever you would choose to do in that scenario that’s your answer but of course it’s your choice and it doesn’t seem like you’re too close so it won’t matter relationship wise of course but it might matter OCD wise or stopping yourself from having fun

ilovecats :)

Date posted: Yesterday

hello! i really hope you're doing well. i just want to say before i begin i just recently got diagnosed with ocd so i'm still very new to this and in no way can i diagnose you but this kinda sounds like potentially moral ocd. as for advice, it really depends on how you want to handle it. it seems you don't really mind not talking to her anymore so you could maybe just walk away from the situation or you could talk to her about it. it honestly depends on how you feel and want to proceed with her. also you wanting to admit stuff is in fact a compulsion. it happens to me all time, i get anxious, admit something to someone, they reassure me, i get a day of peace and then the cycle repeats. it happens to me all the time so no shame. i'm really sorry if this doesn't help or answer your question. :(

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