I was doing so well and then

@Mel1989 I think just the fact of being in a healthy relationship- this guy feels like a dream man and it’s like my body is rejecting it

@Lalillie I feel that. I’m going through something similar. Almost like someone treating you well can’t be real.

@mxratxm A lot of different ones but the thoughts revolve around that I’m not good enough or he doesn’t see me as a good fit. It’s like a spiral. When i got into this relationship it was great, and i was happy being myself but i think i just get so much attachment and anxiety and then distance myself when it happens.

@Lalillie I totally relateeee I felt the exact same way. In my relationship it was all new to me and I was afraid of getting to attached so I’d constantly monitor his attraction towards me or if me and him were a perfect fit etc especially when differences become more apparent and the “butterflies” wear out. What helped me get through that period is allowing to not know the answer if we are or aren’t or will last. On social media they make romance seem like it has to be incredibly perfect but I had to realize the imperfect and unsure part is important. If he’s choosing you, and you are choosing him then allow that to exist even if it’s scary and it takes a lot of risks and time. I like to think of my partner were to die tomorrow would I waste a day fantasizing about our ending? I never dated until now and my bf is absolutely perfect and exactly my type to a T but I still have doubts and that’s the beauty of it really, you can love someone hard asf everyone does but you can still have doubts it’s more common then people like to show. If you like him, then like him. Even if there’s a million what ifs or ends tragedy. Anxiety likes to make things worse intuitive thinking and signs of rejection is calm. As someone who has rejected soo many guys I don’t remember a time I was anxious about it. Not to say it’s similar for everyone but note anxiety can also be good feelings, feelings of change and new, that is what helped me to stop overthinking about how my body feels about unfamiliar moments!

@mxratxm This helps me a lot and just knowing other people are going through similar things. My brain likes to argue everything though. One thing I keep thinking “if this doesn’t work out i will have failed a good relationship and myself for not letting myself have something good” and so on. I know all the tools to let it go but it’s debilitating pulling myself out of all the holes I get myself into mentally. I hope one day I can sit with the dis ease and let myself feel everything I need to and let myself just BE. When you felt like that was it more important to you to let yourself feel it or ignore it? Or both? I get them mixed up and I don’t know which I’m supposed to do

@Lalillie I CAN totally relate