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I’m Kari and I’m 20 years old. Recently I’ve been experiencing really bad NOCD, since I’ve gotten into a relationship with my boyfriend, although it was present before, it seems to be worse now that we’re together. It constantly makes me question whether or not I love him, and constantly makes me worry that he’s a cheater, even though he’s done nothing wrong. But not only that, it seems to like to target my friends as well, saying “since you’re talking to them does this mean you like them? You must” even though I never have and never would like them like that ocd makes it seem like I do. Prior to my boyfriend it would constantly make me feel like a weird person or just replay memories where I thought I said something weird to someone. All in all it makes me feel like I’m an absolute monster, and I’m not sure what I could do about it. I tried ignoring the thoughts. That worked for a little while, until one day it didn’t, and that’s the day the thoughts got louder. Since then it’s just none stop.

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kcat257

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@kcat257 - Happy to share! Downloading the app and putting all of that into words takes real courage. One thing worth naming before the links: trying to ignore or push the thoughts away is itself a compulsion, and so is replaying old memories to check whether you said something weird, or scanning your feelings to confirm you still love your boyfriend. Each of those gives a few seconds of relief, which is exactly why the thoughts came back louder — OCD learns that the doubt works. "Relationship OCD (ROCD): Signs, Symptoms, and Treatment" https://www.treatmyocd.com/blog/relationship-ocd Covers the pattern you described — questioning whether you really love your partner, fearing he's cheating when he's done nothing wrong, and the doubt spreading to friendships — and why it latches onto the people you care about most. "What Happens in Relationship OCD (ROCD) Treatment? Explanation and Examples" https://www.treatmyocd.com/blog/what-are-rocd-exposures-explanation-and-examples Clinically reviewed by April Kilduff, MA, LCPC, this one walks through what ERP actually looks like for relationship themes with concrete examples, which is the piece that picks up where "just ignore it" left off. Does any of that feel like a helpful place to start? If talking to someone who specializes in exactly this sounds useful, NOCD offers a free 15-minute call you can book from the "Book a free call" link at the top of either article page — no commitment required. 🤍 💬 Was this response helpful? Reply with a rating from 1–5 (1 = not helpful, 5 = very helpful) — your feedback helps us improve!

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Try maybe/ maybe not statements. Like: “Maybe he is cheating in me maybe he’s not” “Maybe I do like this friend maybe I don’t” “Maybe I do love my boyfriend maybe I don’t” “maybe I do want to be with him maybe not” And be like huh okay and got on about your day. Acknowledge the thought but don’t give into it. OCD wants a definite answer. Don’t give it one.

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