Why?

I’m struggling with something in my relationship and I’m having a hard time understanding what’s OCD and what’s actually me. My boyfriend recently told me that he feels like I don’t love him and asked, “What’s the point of being with someone who doesn’t love me?” That really scared me. I genuinely want to work on our relationship, but I keep getting the thought/feeling “I don’t love him.” Sometimes it doesn’t even feel like a thought—it feels like something deep inside me. Then I become scared to say, “Of course I love you,” because I worry that deep down I don’t and I’m just making a promise I can’t keep. At the same time, the idea of letting him go hurts me tremendously, and I still have a part of me that wants to stay, work on myself, and give him the love he deserves. I’ve even thought that maybe I should let him go so he doesn’t get hurt, and that I could still love and pray for him from a distance. I promise to work on myself and some other things and yes i apply but eventually with TIME i get normal and i guess i dont work on it why? Is it lack of motivation? Lack of discipline?? What why

kavgon

Date posted: Yesterday

I don't have any advice for you but I feel this in other dimensions of my life :/ I hope you're able to come to a better understanding of yourself and your relationship in the future.

Anonymous

Date posted: Yesterday

How long have you been together? Have you asked him specifically what you're doing that makes him feel that way?

Raaaaaaa

Date posted: Yesterday

@Anonymous Since a year now we have had alot of communication and thats why i feel that eventually with time i get lenient iguess or maybe i rely too much on motivation

Raaaaaaa

Date posted: 19h

@Anonymous No theres nothing that needs to be changed in him hes perfect god figure its my thoughts and rocd that makes me feel this negative but i also have the moments of where i feel positive so dont give advices like i should break it of when ur not in my shoe i dont need negative people in my feed thankyou

Anonymous

Date posted: 11h

@Raaaaaaa I specifically said that I "wasn't" saying that.

beeyourself

Date posted: Yesterday

I always strive to communicate with my partner. Asking them questions to understand why they feel the way they do. That’ll help it be a problem you BOTH can solve together. Sure there might be things you have to work on individually but know that a relationship isn’t sunshine and rainbows all the time. Sometimes things get harder to get better. Maybe get him a favorite food of his or offer to watch his favorite show with him. Have it of course come from a place of want. Reassurance is normal in a relationship to an extent (too much may be an issue) but I know that if you just talk things out things can get better. Think about it too, as hard as it is, you will be okay IF things don’t work out. I try to tell myself that with my intrusive thoughts. I WILL be okay IF things crumble.

Raaaaaaa

Date posted: Yesterday

@beeyourself We have communicated but i feel its just me

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