Recent diagnosis, and im scared and overwhelmed

Yes please

@Bpe2026 - Happy to share! Posting this without having anyone proof it first is genuinely a big step, and it's worth naming. One thing that might help today: there's a quick way to tell whether you're asking for real input or whether OCD is driving it. If the question comes with urgency (a need to know *right now*), a need for certainty, or a wave of distress around the answer, that's a red flag that it's a compulsion rather than a genuine ask. That distinction gives you and your fiancé something concrete to work with instead of trying to white-knuckle every single urge. "Steps To Break the Reassurance-Seeking Pattern" https://www.treatmyocd.com/blog/steps-to-break-the-reassurance-seeking-pattern Written by Stacy Quick, LPC, this one covers exactly the loop you're describing — the "every text has to be approved" pattern — and walks through how to tell advice from reassurance, plus how to bring a trusted person like your fiancé in as support rather than as the source of certainty. "I'm Autistic With OCD. Here's How My Therapist And I Made ERP Work For Me" https://www.treatmyocd.com/blog/im-autistic-with-ocd-heres-how-my-therapist-and-i-made-erp-work-for-me A first-person account of adapting ERP to work with an autistic neurotype instead of against it — useful context if you're newly diagnosed and wondering what treatment would actually look like for you. Are you working with a therapist who specializes in OCD and ERP specifically, or more of a general therapist right now? 💬 Was this response helpful? Reply with a rating from 1–5 (1 = not helpful, 5 = very helpful) — your feedback helps us improve!

Thank you, its really hard. I always assume people are angry with me or ive done something wrong. It takes so much effort to not get reasurance. Im kinda glad its not just me

@Mara_Dearie You’re definitely not alone. I know it’s hard to trust with CPTSD but remember to be kind to yourself <3