Fear of asbestos

This is going to be a long one So a couple of years ago i had a really bad fear of asbestos it turned out one of my family members had asbestos in their ceiling and it had to be took down but the council took ages to fix the ceiling and I had been in that house my ocd got really bad to the point where I stopped going over there altogether if anything had been brought over to my house from that house and touched anything in my house it had to go in the bin I was bagging clothes up showering for hours at a time and scrubbing my hands and up my arms every 5 minutes I was terrified that me and my family were going to die if any of us even stood next to someone who lived in that house this went on for about 8 months or so and then I seemed to have gotten over it or so I thought it's been maybe about 3 years now and for some reason I started worrying about asbestos again because our Christmas decorations are in the loft I wanted to get the loft tested before I could get them out at Christmas time even though I've had them out of their before and then my mind went to the artex ceiling that is on the landing where you go into the loft so I wanted that tested then I realised there's a hole in the bedroom wall where the door handle banged against the wall and there's a small hole in the bathroom wall or what about the spotlights in the bathroom where the plaster is coming away a bit and I also sanded my daughters bedroom wall a couple of months ago so I spent the day crying and panicking that I've exposed my daughter to asbestos fibers and that she's only going to live a short life because of my stupidity anyway I started panicking because the asbestos man didn't test my daughters bedroom wall because it's the same wall as my bedroom that he tested so he said there's no need anyway we got all these places tested and all was negative apart from the artex ceiling which was positive so we need to get that removed and we are going to but now I'm worrying about our living room ceiling and dining room ceiling I know they had artex ceilings years before we moved in because I had a look at the photos of the house online and I don't know if they were completely removed? Just plastered over? Or if they were overboarded then plastered over? I'm panicking because in the dining room there's this tiny hole in the ceiling it's got like a dinted in circle around it then a tiny hole in the middle I'm thinking that asbestos is under there and the fibers are coming out and contaminating everything and that me and my family are going to die I'm so worried for my kids I just want them to be safe I've tried to distract myself but I feel like if i stop worrying about this then that means that it's definitely releasing fibers