Rocd/bicuriousity

Hi, sorry your struggling on this. However it makes sense that this situation would create the inner conflict you’re feeling… I don’t usually, like evvveerrr comment (just not my thang), but I felt compelled bc I had the same situation come up in my last relationship… In my situation we were both just SUPER honest with each other, & talked about our views & possibilities, & admitted there would likely need to be mutual understanding on the limits or ‘rules of the road’ & understand there are risks to the relationship by adding other variables, etc.. I don’t spell this out to be condescending at all but just to say sometimes the best answer is the most simple thing sitting right there. Honesty is the only way I can see that situation coming out on a favorable end, however it works out.

With honesty in mind, I would talk to my partner about it, but that’s me & I wanted to share to just give my experience and let you know I think this situation is probably quite common & it was fine for me. You might be pleasantly surprised how understanding ppl can be (& I’m all too familiar with the ‘dooming the future’ intrusive thoughts). For me personally, there has been much more effort & stress attached to hiding things or having shame around true feelings, esp w/loved ones or family. Decided to be very open about my ocd as of late & it has really helped me to let go of a lot of excuses & hiding from having ocd. This has been a benefit to my recovery, and doesn’t make it harder far as I can tell. You are who you are & u shldnt feel guilt or shame bc of it. We all have these decisions to consider within romantic relationships & as a fellow ocd sufferer, & perfectionist; managing those decisions have never been easy for me. But you do the best you can & I know you will.

Hi, I’ve been here and still am occasionally to an extent. I think if experimenting is something you truly WANT to do, and not a compulsion, you can bring it up with your partner in an honest and considerate way. In the height of a spiral, my boyfriend brought up an openness to me exploring while in our relationship if it was with certain boundaries. All in all, ended up going up in dose of my SSRI and no longer had the immediate “need” to experiment. So I dropped it. I think something that can bring comfort without reassurance is that when experimenting, you may find things enjoyable, you also might not. Additionally, even if you DID enjoy it, it wouldn’t mean you’d need to leave your partner. There’s a lot more to life than sex. But no choice that you make will be wrong, because there is a lot more than sex that goes into choosing a romantic partner :)

Sapphic here! I knew I liked women my whole life. I was in the middle of exploring my attraction to men when I got into a relationship with a women. I knew I liked that person and my sexuality didn’t matter. It ended and I explored again and I discovered I was bi with a preference for women. And now I’m in a long term happy relationship with another woman. Also I never had to have sex with a man or woman to know I’m attracted to them, that’s not the only way to explore. Personally i think this is just ocd. There is sexual orientation ocd. If you are attracted to your boyfriend, happy, and monogamous, you’re fine. I would really focus on tackling your ocd and then go from there.