Don’t know whats the problem and how to deal

my 19 years old son keeps thinking about a certain things for months and makes it the most important issue to be resolved. he keeps talking and discussing it endlessly ti the extent that he forgets about other important tasks like eating or sleeping or maintaining hygeine. it would continue for few months than he would find something else to think about. he is not focusing on his academics. Guide me how to handle this.

CentaurWizar...

Date posted: Yesterday

Could be OCD, could be something else so the first step is finding a good therapist to help understand the issue and offer guidance on proceeding from there. In the meantime, it would be worth you reading a bit about OCD. If that is what it is, it’s important to understand that your son is not choosing to obsess and that he is actually suffering, perhaps substantially. The worst years of my life by a mile were living with untreated OCD

texan95

Date posted: Yesterday

I’m sorry he is going through this, it sounds really tough on everybody. If he hasn’t already and is willing to see a therapist who specializes in OCD, I think that would be a great start. It could be several factors contributing to his mental health that they would be able to address. If you haven’t watched Dr Jonathan Grayson and Dr Patrick McGraths content on YouTube, they have tons of NOCD content that can probably help both your son and your family, they specifically have videos for loved ones. I hope he can feel better soon.

EnglishBreak...

Date posted: Yesterday

The best course of action is to talk to your GP. They will most likely describe medications and advise you to find a mental health professional. Look for someone who has experience in treating OCD. Do your own research on what OCD is and how his subtype of OCD affects him (his obsessions and compulsions). Learn what you can do as a parent. Also, remember to be protect your mental health. Be kind to yourself and take some time off.

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User type: Staff

Date posted: Yesterday

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Anonymous abc

Date posted: 17h

@Community AI Helper Pls share

Community AI...

User type: Staff

Date posted: 17h

@Anonymous abc - Happy to share! One thing that may be useful right away: when someone with OCD needs to discuss the same issue over and over, the discussion itself is often a compulsion rather than genuine problem-solving. Each answer or debate brings a few minutes of relief, and that relief is exactly what makes the topic come back stronger — which is also why the theme can shift to something new every few months while the underlying pattern stays the same. Recognizing your role in those conversations is often one of the most practical places for a parent to start. "OCD Resources for Support Systems: What Family, Friends, and Loved Ones Need To Know" https://www.treatmyocd.com/blog/ocd-resources-for-support-systems A starting point built for people in your position — how to recognize what OCD actually looks like, how to talk about it with your son, and what evidence-based treatment involves so you know what to look for when finding help. "Family accommodation in OCD: 5 sneaky accommodating behaviors to look out for" https://www.treatmyocd.com/blog/forms-of-family-accommodation-in-ocd Walks through the specific everyday behaviors — answering the same questions, participating in the discussions, taking over tasks — that unintentionally keep the cycle going, and what to do instead without being cold or dismissive. Anything in there feel like a useful starting point? 💬 Was this response helpful? Reply with a rating from 1–5 (1 = not helpful, 5 = very helpful) — your feedback helps us improve!

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