ROCD

Ever since my boyfriend and I had broken up, my compulsions kicked full force. I pretty much went in a relapse, I think because the breakup was unexpected, and it was actually a good relationship. All of my last relationships have been very unhealthy, so this had thrown me off. In the end it may have been for the best, he has a lot of internal work to do (even though I don’t think he realizes it) as do I. But my compulsions of constantly checking keeps happening, I believe he stated dating someone new a month after we had broken up. And I think I keep feeding my compulsions, both mentally and physically. Like I keep thinking he is treating her much better than me, that it must be an easier relationship… Does anyone else suffer from ROCD? What do you do when compulsions kick in?

Anonymous6810

Date posted: 16d

I broke up with my girlfriend because of my OCD (it actually wasn’t ROCD at the time) it was pretty bad and mainly revolved around other sub-types such as Harm OCD and Pure OCD. Honestly as much as I loved her and craved her time, love and attention it was kind of relieving for me to have a break. I felt like for so long I was having to manage my OCD symptoms and bad days where OCD was in control and debilitating me, and then I would also have to manage her bad days and her anxieties (she doesn’t have OCD but has ADHD and struggles a bit with that). For someone who knows what OCD is like on the worst days it really takes all your energy and effort and strength sometimes to fight it and sit with stuff. I understand it can be hard. So having someone else to emotionally regulate and manage along with yourself is adding a whole extra human. (Idk if I’m making sense and I am happy to clarify or word it differently) I guess what I’m trying to say is sometimes space is good, sometimes time to focus on healing yourself and recovering from your OCD is good. There is always a happy ending. After some time apart from each other and me having that time to focus on my condition, heal and recover with my therapist and ERP we actually ended up getting back together and we our relationship is functioning a lot better because I am in better control of my OCD I don’t let it rule me anymore I am the one in control of my body and mind. That’s not to say I don’t have the off rough day or bad patch but genuinely things are much better. And honestly I got to the point in my recovering and relationship before I got back together with her when I was okay and comfortable in dealing with the fact that I might not get back together with that person. And as tough and painful as that thought is. It passes and I would have found someone else. Ik it’s hard to sit with the thought and discomfort that your not together. But you have to become okay with thinking “I might not get together with them” and reframe it to “I might get back together with them or I might not and that’s okay because I am my own person and there are millions of other people out there looking for a partner and you could be that person” I hope this has helped and I am thinking of you and praying for you. Healing and recovery is possible. And you got this I believe in you!!

Mia 💌

Date posted: 16d

@Anonymous6810 This gives me hope that one day we might get back together, he doesn’t struggle mentally and was actually w me through the worst of my ocd. He’s going through some life changes (new job, moving,) basically the early 20s lol & that on top of me & my ocd I think just got really overwhelming and felt like he needed to take a step back to focus on his mental health because that’s his number one rule is that if his mental health is being affected then he will step back. Which sucks for me LOL bc ofc I want to be with him and I’m like wtf but I’m also like okay I get it… you know? Idk in a world where I always believe my negative “what if” thoughts reading what you said gives me hope.

Anonymous

Date posted: 16d

@Anonymous6810 I know I’ll be able to recover because I have before. But for some reason this time around it is much, MUCH more difficult. I keep obsessing about my ex and his girlfriend. I hope I can get to a place where I can say what you had said about reframing my mind about being my own person.

Anonymous6810

Date posted: 14d

@Anonymous I believe in you!

Mia 💌

Date posted: 16d

I experience alot of ROCD especially now going through a break up also 🫠 I have been posting on here about it recently.

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