How to stop it It's fueled my ocd to the extent that I am confused whether the thought came just because of ocd or it's me who is thinking it Purposefully I'm suffering from pure ocd magical thinking ocd Pls reply
hi! so sorry you’re going through that! first of all always remember it’s ocd that’s making you ruminate and making you think that it’s your own thought. second of all something that helped is to let the thought just be, don’t fight it, just let it sit, it will be uncomfortable but it will pass. go watch a movie, meet up w/ friends, distract yourself. isolation is ocd’s best friend. getting out of a spiral is always difficult but sometimes we just have to wait for the storm to end. and I promise you it will. sending lots of love <3
Thank you 🙂
Hey, friend! Sorry you are dealing with this. Rumination is one of the hardest compulsions to crack. I will share with you what helped me the most and hope that it helps you too! First, notice when you are ruminating. Catching yourself while ruminating is very important. Second, acknowledge your OCD from a place of non-fear. Say something like, “ hey, OCD, thanks for being here. You are welcome to stick around, and I am going to continue doing what I was doing.” Third, after acknowledging your OCD try using these statements: “this thought is not helpful right now” “this thought is not something I need to figure out immediately” “I do not need to solve this problem right away” “This is not urgent” “maybe, maybe not” Good luck! You’ve got this .
Healthy distractions. Things that stifle the rumination. Its really simple actually but requires effort and consistency. No matter how many times the thoughts come, you redirect your attention toward something else. Continually, even if you have to redirect your attention 100 times. Notice how I didnt say ignore the thought or give it meaning. Acknowledge it and then quickly turn your attention elsewhere. My healthy distractions include: going for walks, playing sudoku, playing chess… essentially anything that occupies your mind even if its just for a second. It gives your mind space to breathe! Eventually you feel better. Imagine lifting weights but you only get to breath when youre done lifting. That would suck… youd pass out pretty quick. Thats what OCD wants. When you stop engaging with your compulsions you get to breathe.. and the beauty of it is that you can continue lifting or living your life how you want to.. even if the OCD said you arent aloud to. You realize how little the voice is and how much power you really do have. Stifle the rumination’s with healthy distractions and practice not attaching meaning to the thoughts!
Yes but for some scenario it's very difficult to get distracted
@jp2003 Believe me JP, Im in one haha. My past is very sticky and Ive made a lot of mistakes that now looking back cause much shame and guilt. It is very DIFFICULT. But thats OCD my friend❤️
@slippery_salad Thanks friend Can you share what mistakes you did in the past ?
How can I deal with False Memory OCD? I am struggling with ruminating thoughts, and trying to figure out false memories! How can I enjoy my day without figuring it out?
So, my brain brought up a question that really affected my worldview. I solved the obsession, and gained some good wisdom on that could be useful towards unconditional loving self acceptance. Maybe I was being OCD about recovery, and tried to find logical reasons for why progress is important no matter the outcome when I should've just embraced uncertainty. So now I have an answer to the Obsession. But this obsession took me to a pretty dark place. And I know OCD is just gonna throw and equally Bad one at me if I use this information to my benefit because it will essentially be reinforcing the OCD cycle. "Oh, he got the solution he needed to now I need to throw a new obsession at his way." So what do I do with the wisdom I gained from ruminating here? It's useful and practical information, so I don't want to throw it out. But I can't reinforce the ocd cycle.
There’s this one situation that I haven’t stopped thinking about from last night . So basically, I was reading 'The power of Now' which is a book that I love so much and really got me into spirituality. It’s been so helpful for my OCD and rumination but it’s also been pretty triggering for it as of late, so I’ve taken a long break from consistently reading it. The excerpt I read was about abundance and how its not about being bountiful, necessarily in material things but realizing and being grateful for the things that exist in your life now and in doing so, you will open yourself up to more good things. I understood it but I re-read it a lot because I didn't feel confident enough to explain it to someone else. but otherwise I LOVED IT. It made me feel so at peace, I agreed with it, and it gave me hope to start focusing on the good things in my life rather than the bad. So when I went to bed I rehearsed myself explaining it to someone on a podcast and then all these questions started flooding in like “why should I only focus on the good and aren't we supposed to accept the good and bad? Aren’t those the values of Buddha and spirituality” “Ya, we're supposed to accept the good and the bad but why?- so we can feel more good??? And isn't the point of OCD to not label things as good and bad? and why should I focus on the good- so I can feel good? why should I feel good? because I'm worthy of it? why am I worthy of it? because I'm a good person and do good things? well I’ve also done bad things so why shouldn't I consider that. I just don’t understand why I should feel good without it being selfish. And then this went on for like 2 or 3 hours. Like holy shit. I over explain these ideas and concepts that I resonate with to the point where they don't even make sense to me anymore. It becomes very existensial very quick. And I’m not suicidal but these questions make me feel hopeless in society for some reason?? And myself. Like if everything contradicts everything then what’s the point to life? If nothing can be understood or explained in a senseful way, then how do people move forward and make decisions, like AT ALL? There’s never a right or perfect answer and I feel like with any decision I make in regards, I’m doing a compulsion either way. If I don’t answer them, then I’m avoiding it and if I do then I’m checking and seeking reassurance. I’m sorry if this was way too long and over-explained I just need some advice or to know if anyone can relate in any way. Also, I’m sorry if some of those back-to-back questions were triggering.
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