Sometimes this app is triggering…😅 Someone said that if erp didn’t work, i should try gender affirming…its so scary! Even if im not diagnosed officially but still,what do you think?(I don’t want gender affirming 😔)
No worries :) It's important to note that not all advice given is beneficial or factual, as we are not professionals, but I'm sure the advice is given with nothing but good intent as people genuinely are trying to help in a way they see possible. Gender affirming treatment would indeed be harmful for SOOCD because that treatment would validate our intrusive thoughts ("Am i actually gay?) as actually being real, when intrusive thoughts are just meaningless chatter that we shouldn't pay any attention to. That treatment would also involve constant reassurance and constant arguing with the intrusive thoughts (compulsions) about what orientation we are that we are doubtful of. But we always wanna stay away from compulsions if we have OCD. SOOCD is supposed to be treated the same way as any OCD theme: they are all treated with ERP, which is awarded as the gold-standard treatment for Ocd. ACT, self-compassion, and a healthy lifestyle also help a lot. ERP therapists often teach those practices in combination with ERP. Aside from that, I would stay away from using anything else that ERP therapists don't advocate for.
@Love1another<3 I wanted to say,is it still so ocd if im scared of being into women,not being gay itself? Like,if i was a boy,and gay,it won’t be scary cuz if mean i love men,but if gay woman? No..im a woman but my head is so tired
@Mimo116 Yeah :) Anything in the world can turn into an obsession. There’s no limits on what counts as Ocd or not. I have had obsessions and compulsions over something as small as what pair of earrings I wanted to order on Amazon haha 😄 For SOOCD, I’ve even heard of gay people afraid of turning straight! I also hear of people afraid of turning bi or lesbian. OCD will attack all angles. All of those have in common- the obsession of losing your sense of identity and therefore, accidentally making life choices against your values/morals. This is a common core fear across many OCD themes
@Love1another<3 I said that because SOOCD is fearing of being gay.but i fear being into women in secret and not into men,so in scared im a lesbian! But im not upset of “gay”,like,if im a boy i wont mind being gay and that mean im for men,so its confusing,am I really experiencing HOCD? :( I wasnt upset at all,the point i joined an online game and put mlm flag and pretend im a gay boy.it wasn’t for to be boy as a gender ,but facing the fear but with still show that im for men.and when it was fun and not bad,my brain saya that im secretly a boy or trans. Im tireeeedddddd
@Mimo116 I get you completely 🫶 Yes, if you have an obsessive fear and you do compulsions around it (mental or physical), then it’s most likely OCD. I hear some rumination in your post and that’s one form of a compulsion. The obsessive fear of being into women/being a lesbian is definitely part of SOOCD as well :) SOOCD pertains to any orientation- the fear of being bi, straight, lesbian, gay, transgender, nonbinary, etc. It sounds like you’re also experiencing a theme called “Meta OCD” which involves having questions like “is this really OCD or is this something else?” Also, I’m sorry you’re so exhausted. I find that the compulsions are what makes us so tired and when we get those under control, life starts to feel more peaceful again 👍 I think ERP therapy would benefit you
I cant do anything anymore without my brain dregdging up proof from my past that I was actually trans and didn't know it, and it all seems so plausible. like I said in my last post its unearthing memories that I didn't even know I have. ik this is just ocd tricking me but I feel like I need to review every moment thoroughly bc I have questioned my gender in the past but always concluded that'd I'd happier as a girl (which is true). everything feels so real and it feels like I am just super in denial. also, how do I tell people about this? I made the mistake of confessing to a teacher on a note and only a couple friends of mine understand the thoughts I get, but I don't tell them everything. however its very hard for me to do basic responsibilities like school work and I always end up overwhelmed, so I'm thinking I may need accomdations. I need to get in touch with my counselor but i'm unsure how to explain all of this to her, being that I don't have a diagnosis....also I feel like I can't talk about this with the majority of my friends because gender ocd is rare to have (increasing my doubts) and, at least school-wise, i'm in very accepting environment for lgbtq and I'm afraid they're just gonna tell me to accept myself. I'm scared of doing erp for this because what if I like it (also cant afford therapy). ive also felt very apprehensive around some of my trans friends and classmates because my brain is going crazy asking "what if you're like them?" and I feel so bad and transphobic for these thoughts. i'm genuinely so tired. one of my closest friends died last year, but my father pointed out that my recent mood has been even worse than it was during that time. i tend to bottle up my emotions a lot, so everyone's just telling me to "let it go" and tell people, but if I do that I feel like i'll end up confessing. i'm so tired and lost.
2 nights ago I saw something on my phone and it has now spiraled into me scared of being trans or being gay because i don’t want to be… now i have a huge fear of what if i am gay and am attracted to woman or what if im not comfortable in my body and want to turn into a man. It’s freaking me out - my ocd always makes me question my character! Has anyone experienced this 😩
I’m thinking about doing erp but my ocd is so severe the thought of accepting my fears happening to me makes me sick to my stomach. I also believe in the power of my words and saying I accept this Bad thing will attract it into my life. I’m not sure what I should do🥲
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