I really messed up today.

I shouldn’t have said what I said. It was really bad. There was this guy saying he was pro extinction and he said we should accept extinction to stop suffering. I commented. “Alright, buddy. You go first.” I remembered it and was like, “That’s wasn’t very good what I said.” I went back and deleted it. I still feel bad though. I mean, I basically told a person to kill themself. I mean, a lot of other people were saying the same thing but I don’t give me the right to say that. I often do this. Words come out of my mouth that I shouldn’t say and I regret them later. I’m gonna commit to not saying this again and ensure that I don’t say something as inappropriate as that and try to respectful from here on out.

fake pessimist

Date posted: 18w

This probably isn’t the best response for you because it could be taken as reassurance. This wasn’t really bad. This was an incredibly normal response to someone acting opposite to your view point. To clarify, I agree with you, so I’m biased. Your thought process was (im assuming) “if that’s what’s you believe, you should be willing to die as well”. I’m assuming you just wanted to bring reality and clarity to the person you were conversing with. And even if that wasn’t the intent and the intent was to be like, “you should kill yourself” yes, that’s not the greatest thing to say. BUT it’s not terrible or awful, nor does it make you a bad person. Anyways, I guess from an outside perspective, this is not anything to beat yourself up over. Hope this helps a little.

SAGUI

Date posted: 18w

@Anonymous Yeah, I shouldn’t have said it though. I feel like there are two people in this world. Guts and Griffiths. Guts does a lot of bad things, and I mean A LOT. He once assaulted Casca (granted he was under the control of the berserker armor but he still had some control and knew what he was doing), he told a little girl to kill herself right after throwing her father into hell, and he’s killed children. Griffith on the other hand constantly tortures and harasses Guts, he 🍇 his partner just to punish him for leaving his band, and he made all his friends sacrifices so he could be all powerful. Guts wants to change though. He realizes he has trauma but he doesn’t let it excuse his actions and strives to do better. Griffith on the other hand keeps doubling down and doesn’t care. He enjoys being bad. I want to be like Guts and whenever I do something bad I try to think to myself, “If Guts can be better I can be better. And if I stay the way I am I stay like Griffith.”

SAGUI

Date posted: 18w

@Anonymous Yeah, you know what you’re right. It wasn’t that bad. I was trying to say a flaw in what he said.

fake pessimist

Date posted: 18w

So I’m assuming you relate to guts yes? You wish you overcome the things that go against your own morals?

fake pessimist

Date posted: 18w

Also I have watched berserk so I know what you’re talking about

SAGUI

Date posted: 18w

@Anonymous I want to read it. I follow this one guy on here profile named Guts. He’s a pretty cool guy.

fake pessimist

Date posted: 18w

I know you relate to these characters a lot and I feel that so much too. It’s good to relate to characters. That’s why they exist. To bring nuance and diversity into media, and in turn, to normalize it in reality. But people are more than just Guts and Griffith. Don’t go searching for that in every person you meet. Confirmation bias is deadly. Take everyone at face value and let them show you who they are without investigation or profiling.

SAGUI

Date posted: 18w

@Anonymous I know that’s just the majority of what I’ve seen. There are some very Spider-Mans and Supermans in the world (people who have suffered and made some mistakes but do good and people who haven’t suffered as much as others but are still good) but the majority of what I’ve seen are Guts and Griffiths. And there’s Judge Holdens who have no reason to be evil but choose to be evil anyway. And there’s Dr. Doofenshmirtz and people who do bad things but they don’t want to be evil. It goes Superman, Spider-Man, Guts, Dr. Doofenshmirtz, Griffith, Judge Holden. Sorry, five just isn’t a good a number.

emma345

Date posted: 23w

Feel guilty about the post I made

17f Basically I made a post about POCD, saying that one phrase people often say as a reassurance is not true and it never helps me because I know it's not true. At the beginning of the post I made a warning, saying that this will be triggering for those with POCD. So I warned. And then in the comments someone started seeking reassurance and freaking out. And she said stuff that are not true again, at first I argued a bit cause well... I made a post and I wanted to defend my position, so I defended what I said. Like what I needed to do? Lie to her? Now i think that I should've just ignored that user But then after we talked she said that because of my post she now thinks she is a pedophile and will off herself and then spammed me with comments asking for reassurance At first I was trying to calm her down, saying that if her psychiatrist said that she has POCD then she is not a P and stuff, but then I just realized I can't do anything so I just replied to every one of her comments "I'm not a therapist. I can't help you. You need to seek professional help and shouldn't rely on the opinion of the strangers on the internet" Now I feel so guilty. I mean she was the one to start asking questions, and sometimes when I argue I feel too passionate to defend my position in the argument and forget about people's feelings so I said a very harsh truth to her after she started arguing with me and I made it worse for her Even though I knew how suicidal you can feel because of POCD I still argued

mariacabrera

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 23w

Advice for when someone says hurt them

Hey, yesterday my ex told me something I did that hurt them. This was that I didnt respond in a supportive way when he came out to me. I genuinely had no idea he was coming out (I thought it was a flippant comment) and I was frustrated as we had been having issues with intimacy for months. He said it made him feel awful and it’s only since telling his friends that he has realised how painful my reaction was. I apologised as I do feel awful I made him feel that way but now I keep questioning my reality or perception of what happened. I also keep wanting to reach out to explain why I responded the way I did. Any tips for when you genuinely feel like a monster or did something so outside of your morals? I feel awful

andrea_sam730

Date posted: 19w

I can’t I feel like I’m stuck

I did post about this the other day, but I’m just genuinely worried like this happened many years ago and I can’t really remember exactly what I said, but I have a feeling like I said something really mean and I think I lashed out on a person like a stranger cause I don’t know I was probably going through something and I’m afraid that like it was so bad it caused them to hurt themselves and now I keep thinking like what if the police are secretly looking for me because the harm caused, even though I have no evidence of any of this, but even this Happened like a deca ago, it still haunts me like I really hope that the person is OK and I constantly like keep reviewing like their conversation over and over again like in my mind like I genuinely feel like a bad person maybe even a criminal 😃

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