I’m in a really low place with my ROCD. I feel like I have feelings for someone else & like someone else because of the feelings I have around/about/for this other person I guess. I’m only around this other person when in group settings with friends. I dont want this. I feel nauseous, guilty, all the things as I love my partner so much. I know I struggle with ROCD terribly and I need advice from someone who’s been in my shoes. Is this common in ROCD? Idek
Hi, I’m currently going through this with my new boss he’s young and considered conventionally attractive and I know I don’t actually want anyone else but my fiancé but him being similar in age and also having more of a friend relationship with me and my coworkers instead of the traditional older boss is making it very hard for me I’m always so scared I’ve said something inappropriate or flirted or will cross the line even thought it’s LITERALLY my biggest fear to ever do anything like that to my partner. I wish I had more advice for you other than your not alone and I’m sorry your going through this
@SB93 I feel ya. Mine is with a friend that I used to hangout with before my partner. We kissed before. And now continuing to be friends because he’s always around my friends. I’m so paranoid of flirting and feel guilty about feelings when I know they don’t have to have significance because I love my partner. I feel guilty for liking to be around other guys and even just still being friends with them. But that’s just who i am. If I see people I’m gunna talk to them and stuff
@Mk3 Hey, I feel guilty about the same. Like the thought of "why do I like being around other guys when I have my boyfriend's attention?" Im a naturally talkative person who just loves to get to know people and make jokes, without thinking much really. But since I'm in a relationship now it sometimes can get confusing to make any bond outside of my relationship without feeling guilty. Like you said, not all feelings have to have significance.
@Pandora_2003 Yes. I honestly am to the point where I’m just going to sit in the discomfort and the doubt. When we have OCD I’ve found it creates so much worry and I’m hoping if I stop engaging this will get better. Yes I feel guilty for liking to be around other guys and stuff but we are just humans and that’s just another feeling. Our actions is what matters. If I want to be friends with them, so what. I think we should be able to.
I know the naseaus and guilty feeling too well, I don't want it either but it keeps coming back, so just know you're not alone I'm going through it too
It’s so hard for me not to confess my worries to my partner
@SB93 Yes I completely understand. I struggle with that as well. I think realizing that it’s doing no good for either of you is a good reminder. And honestly I think if we try to ignore these worries and stop engaging with them we may be able to see more clearly in the future. OCD is so tricky and sneaky. It’s so hard in the moment though I understand
Yeah I like having actual friends at work and he is married so I always make it a point to ask about her bc I truly am not interested my ocd just warps regular feelings into something worse
@SB93 Yeah my ocd makes feelings any sort of feeling like wanting attention or wanting him to be there etc into a huge ordeal
I’ve been with my partner for almost a year now, and my rocd has become really really bad. I keep feeling like I fell out of love and I just have eyes for other people now, and that I would rather be with someone else. It feels like I’m infatuated with other people and it makes me so guilty. It’s been so hard for me because it’s hard to tell if it’s just my brain convincing me I don’t love my partner or if this is really my desire. The biggest fear I have is hurting my partner, so there’s also a sense of urgency that I need to tell them how I’ve been feeling to prevent myself from leading them on I guess. This is compounded with a history of porn addiction that still affects me and makes me feel like I’m more attracted to others. Has anyone else been in this position? I feel like I’m alone and that this is the sign that I’m terrible and shouldn’t be with my partner and that the end of our relationship is inevitable. I can’t tell if I really love them or not and if I really want to still be with them and I hate that I’m having that doubt.
I just saw my boyfriend, and even though everything was okay on the outside, inside my mind it was a storm. I kept having thoughts like: “You don’t like him.” “You’re not feeling anything.” “You’re pretending.” “You don’t care.” And then, he said something sweet — something that should’ve made me feel happy: “We should marry.” And instead of warmth, I felt anxiety. A pit in my stomach. A voice in my head saying: “You don’t want that.” “You’ll never stay with him.” “If you really loved him, you’d feel joy.” And I hate it. I hate that I’m in this state. I don’t feel connected. I don’t feel clarity. I don’t even know what I feel anymore. I just feel… numb. And the worst part? It feels like I don’t even care. But I know I do. Somewhere, beneath all the noise and panic and obsessive thoughts, I care. I want to feel close to him. I want to stop second-guessing every word, every touch, every thought. This is ROCD. It makes me question everything. It makes me feel like I’m lying — even when I’m not. It steals the moments that should feel warm and turns them into confusion. If anyone else feels this awful mix of numbness, fear, and guilt — please tell me I’m not alone.
So this past week I’ve needed to do something’s with group for my school. I have been hanging around more people who are not my boyfriend and now I’m scared I’m losing feelings for him and I am attracted to someone else. Is this normal I have researched and researched and it says it is but what if these thoughts are true? What if there is someone better for me than my boyfriend? Help me please has anyone else gone through this?
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