how do i deal with a “break” with my boyfriend as he goes to boot camp for 3 months? we are still gonna write to each other. he says if i find someone else that’s okay, but i really won’t be looking and really don’t want anyone else. i love him dearly. we’ve agreed a break is best for now, but im not sure anymore. i just want to be with him. is it wrong to be with him again when he gets back?
hey man, im in a relationship with a military man as well, so i get it. and i want to warn you that his absences are only going to get more frequent and sporadic, because the military is unorganized as shit and they dont care about their soldiers or you. but you CAN still have a good relationship. theres absolutely nothing wrong with getting back with him after he gets back, and if you love him i think you absolutely should! but he needs to know that you support him and his decisions. the military is going to be hard on him too, so you two need to have each other's backs. theres going to be times in his absence where you're going to be mad at him and think "why did you leave me," but you need to remember that he doesn't want to be away from you either, its just unfortunate circumstances. i wish you good luck.
I literally just got out of this same situation with my boyfriend. He was talking about going to boot camp for the navy, and his boot camp would be in Chicago but we’re down here in Florida and he would’ve been gone for two months. I told him that if he wanted to find someone different or if he cheated I would understand, but he looked me right in my eyes and told me that he would never do something like that to me. This would’ve been the hardest thing because out of the two months he would’ve been gone I would only be able to talk to him for one hour every two months. I don’t think you guys need a break, or to take a break. My boyfriend didn’t pass the test needed, but even if he did and got shipped away we both agreed that we would continue on like nothing changed. Matter of fact the whole reason why he was doing it was so he could start a life with me, and we could get married and move in together. I know every relationship is different, but if the idea of taking a break or being on break too painful then you don’t have to be on break, especially if you think it would be easier or something along those lines. It’s absolutely not wrong if you want to be with him again when he gets back, if that’s what you want and that’s what he wants. If there is hesitation in the relationship then you guys should solve it before he leaves, and discover why and where it’s coming from. And I’m only saying this because I told my boyfriend the same thing your boyfriend told you which was if he cheated or found someone else I would understand. I don’t know your boyfriend and I don’t know you so please take what I’m saying with a grain of salt. When I had told my boyfriend that I was under the mindset that I would get lonely without him here, and I could see myself doing something with another person it was out of desperation and hurt, but I didn’t mean ANY of it. But the other part of it was I was letting him go and leave for two months meaning if something was to happen it would be out of my control, and I saw it as me letting him go and saving myself from hurt. Anyways, sorry to ramble do what’s best for the relationship, and try not to make it a complex decision. Best of luck to you and him!
Me and my significant other have been dating for a while now we are both in the military and we both went to a remote location ever sense we have been here I’ve been so insecure we with each other 24/7 back home and it’s not the same here now I constantly nick pick at her about other guys. If I see her look at a guy too long or if I see her laugh with them anything involving someone else that is male I get super uncomfortable and almost even jealous that someone else has her attention she talked to me yesterday night and said she’s been having thought of being on her own and leaving me which honestly broke me we are still togather but I guess she wants her space so we are not spending much time together or talking much I guess pretty much a "break" I know she’s not the type to go around a mess with another person she truly wants to find herself again and see if she truly wants to be with me I guess and I have to admit i was in the wrong for sure I would be controlling in ways and was someone I didn’t wanna be and always on defense mode for any person talking to her that was a guy. And now it caused her to want a “break from me I talked to my mom because moms are always right ? And she told me I was definitely in the wrong no one wants to be with someone who is controlling and insecure etc my mom pretty much told me she was her own person before our relationship and it’s come to trust at the end of the day and that I can’t control the narrative I just need other opinions on what to do to help save us and my self
I broke up with my boyfriend today because of how bad my anxiety had gotten I couldn’t tell what was my heart and what was my head. I’m heartbroken because I feel like I lost my best friend and I truly do have love for him and want him in my future. I want to spend the rest of my life with him. We broke up because I’m not on medication for my anxiety and have a doctor’s appointment coming up on Wednesday to see about getting some. I still feel anxious after our breaks but I feel guilty to admit that I do feel better. I’m still just anxious in general a little and I don’t know why. We had decided to stay in touch but not on a daily or even weekly basis, just because there is no hate in our relationship just pure love. I’m just so scared and sad that I really will lose him and be all alone.
I’m struggling a ton rn and would love some insight from people. My bf and I broke up bc my OCD got to the point where it was extremely damaging to my exes mental health. We’ve been on a break for the last 2 months while I get therapy and help and he wants to try again in August. We talk everyday and fall asleep on the phone but I’m miserable anxious about what he’s been doing during the break. My mind is flooded with the idea that he might follow new girls on Instagram or he flirting and talking to new girls. It’s KILLING me. I’ve made up an entire situation w no proof. And I’m scared it’s not my OCD talking but a gut feeling. I know we aren’t together but it’s not fair to emotionally invest in each other if he’s not being loyal like I am. I’m just losing my mind and need help honestly.
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