Today I decided to leave relations that consume my mental health I was always the one who starts and pulls them all together I was so attached and i guess they weren't but today I decided to leave everything I know it was unhealthy and I need to stop my heart from this attachments loop.. I know I will wake up tommorow in ache but pray for me to break this anxiety loop because of lonliness..
This has been in my mind for a while too but I really couldnt manage it at all Loneliness makes us feel bad but I guess when we are with them also we are lonely too because the person who did everythin as you said who first call who worries about them us they just dont care I hope one day I can manage to do this too
You will one day and I know how bad it hurts and scares you but one day you will have the courage you got this my friend you're not alone I care about you
I am sorry to hear that you are struggling! It takes a lot of courage to step away from relationships that are impacting your mental health. It’s completely normal to feel pain and anxiety after making such a big change, especially when you’ve been the one holding things together. Remember, it’s okay to grieve and feel lonely, but you are taking an important step toward your own well-being. If you’d like additional support, feel free to book a free call with our NOCD team. We’d be happy to share more information and explore ways to help. No one has to live in fear of their own thoughts. Also here are some helpful resources: https://www.treatmyocd.com/blog/disorganized-attachment-style/ https://www.treatmyocd.com/blog/unworthy-of-love/ https://www.treatmyocd.com/what-is-ocd/common-fears/is-it-bad-to-check-my-partners-phone-advice-from-a-therapist
"M," The first few months of 2025 I felt abandoned by a few friends, or at least that they were not available, & it was during a time I was about to lose my job. what God did, I believe, is he left me with no option but to draw near to him as I felt disappointed by other people. The outcome of one friendship wherein I felt abandoned Is that last week we talked two hours on the phone for first time in ~3 mos., and last night we hung out for the first time in as long. I share this to say that sometimes God does separate us from other attachments that may have become idols / unhealthy dependencies. Also, the friend w/ whom I reconciled, who happens to be an introvert musician in contrast to me being a very attaching social extrovert, told me that, whereas I felt abandoned, he was feeling a bit smothered by my expectation of hanging out regularly. It was a blind spot of mine that God showed me through that friend. The Lord is faithful and will not abandon you, but He does sometimes separate us from unhealthy attachments, or He invites us to take the initiative to detach, as you said you now are doing. Trust the Lord to provide through other means, as you step into the unknown. He cares for you & knows your true & healthy needs. ~Christian C.
p.s. - One way He provided for me on the heels of that tough season of feeling abandoned is that that friend who had disappeared during my time of need texted me out of the blue for the first time in months, and that opened the door to the 2-hour phone call where we hashed out our differences and came to a much better and healthier place of mutual understanding. He and I are now in a better place to be supportive friends to each other rather than each extracting our own needs in ignorance of the other's. ~C
@Jesus2di4U (Christian C.) Thank you so so much!! I really appreciate everything you said and actually you're so right
This isn't OCD related at all, not even a little, and I'm really sorry, but I feel so panicked and overwhelmed right now and I need an outlet. So basically, I have this friend and we met online shortly after Christmas, not irl. We got on really well. I felt like I could tell them anything. Whenever I felt sad (which was quite often) they would help so much by just being there for me. Sending cute and reassuring tiktoks to me. I felt like they were the nicest ever. I told them stuff other people might judge me for. They never judged me and they never seemed judgemental. I started noticing some things, like their reposts on Tiktok. I noticed years ago they reposted something very anti LGBTQ+. It hurt, I couldn't understand it. I asked them about it, and they didn't exactly seem like they did hate LGBTQ+ people. I moved on, still unsure. I found recently they reposted something else. I wasn't sure whether this was super offensive, but the tone of the original post FELT offensive. I have a strong moral compass, and these things got to me so much because I'm attached to this person. And then today, I find another thing they reposted, this time about immigration. It had a strong racist tone. I know now that I need to cut them off. I don't want people like that in my life. It's one thing having different views, but I firmly stand by the idea that you should agree with those around you about things like this. But I'm so distressed. I feel so attached to them. None of this seems like them at all. They seem like such a kind, non judgemental person. I would sit waiting for their text. I would feel so happy to hear from them. We text non stop. We have loads in common. They never judged me. I thought I finally found someone who actually wanted to be my friend, who actually liked me. I'm going to feel empty and numb, and I'm trying not to cry while writing this. Who will I have? Nobody to expect a text from. Nobody to ask about my day. Nobody to send me cute pictures to cheer me up. I actually feel like I'll never get past this. I feel so lonely all the time and they were there for me when no one else was. I feel so numb and I'm terrified. Sorry again that this isn't OCD related. I just didn't know what to do.
From 2 months I realised I had OCD mix of alot of intrusive thoughts for the first time everything been so bad in my life since then but Thank god after taking medication it gone much better but after 2 months i have been struggling in my life in some way and i couldn't connect to the people around me because sometimes i become more anxious then I started playing a game consists of group of friends answering questions of different things movies quotes anyhting and i started to talk to them and after time i made group of friends and i was the leader 4 boys and 4 girls they were so funny and really respectful they matched my energy so well especially a boy there and after time i started falling for him more and getting attached to them more and if someone at home knows about this they will be so mad at me because I don't know them and it's wrong behavior to talk or play that lots of time with people you don't know But I can't stop talking to them they make me feel like all my intrusive thoughts calm down and the moment I feel like i need to leave them i feel stressed or anxious and my intrusive thoughts gets bigger I got so much attached to them and that boy and it Hurts and especially that boy seems like he likes someone from the team and I shouldn't have been attracted to him in the first place I feel so lost and idk what to do my OCD been severe these days I don't wanna cut them but I should cut them...!
Everyday I wake up and start searching for reason to breakup with my partner. I feel utterly confused by relationships and dating. Not to mention, I’m autistic and this has always been a huge struggle for me. In fact, it led me to both diagnoses of ASD and OCD. I can see there are some things I am not happy with in my current relationship and I understand that, but when does it become too much? I started having limerence over a random person because my brain just wants an out so fast. I told myself that I wouldn’t until I get proper help (medication, constant erp therapy etc). Every time I think about breaking up I start sobbing and my body vehemently rejects it. Its really confusing and disorienting for me and cant trust a damn thought in me. I’m scared that I’m just taking him along for the ride and potentially will severely fuck him up emotionally because of this. I guess thats where I can feel the OCD. My fear of being a bad person and the people around me being bad people. I dont know if I need advice because I think this may be me searching for a compulsion to do. But I just want to get this out of my system. I have severe Disney-like unrealistic expectations sometimes. I had to maladaptive daydream all the time growing up to get out of my traumatic upbringing and brain (tbh). I still do. I am aware of that and try to put myself into check. I just cant stop comparing my friends own beautiful relationships to my own. Most of them are in the “engagement” stage of their relationships. Even though it’s ridiculous, all of them have worked on it for many years at this point.
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