I'm giving a try to let my emotions be

But it actually feels worse, and no not because now Im letting myself feel the feelings, I feel more stressful and hopelessness sparked out too, and a weird scary feeling, i think its anxiety, that i feel back in the pandemic and I woke up at the middle of the night feeling that feeling many times.For years i felt good now that im trying to let myself feel the emotions, fear and hopelessness kicks in. I understand that you should accept and allow every feeling, but if you have alot of fear it will just throw you wherever it wants and you will feel hopeless. I know when you are there, feeling depressed and hopeless it means you did something bad(well not always but you know what i mean). I tried it but this scary feeling of hopeless anxiety made me stop it.

User type: Therapist

Date posted: 10w

Letting yourself feel emotions can be a difficult and sometimes frightening process, especially if it brings up feelings of anxiety or hopelessness. What you’re experiencing is valid, and it’s okay to feel uncertain about how to move forward. Help is here at NOCD and we can assist you in finding outside help if needed too. Also here are some helpful resources: https://www.treatmyocd.com/blog/depression-and-ocd-why-many-people-have-both/ https://www.treatmyocd.com/blog/how-erica-lugo-beat-ocd/ https://www.treatmyocd.com/blog/5-useful-tips-for-managing-depression/

littleApple22

Date posted: 10w

You will get through it! You will feel less scared every time and it’s so scary when you start, but it’ll always get better

PRIV8

Date posted: 10w

But what do i achieve by feeling hopeless and scared?

littleApple22

Date posted: 10w

@PRIV8 I felt the same. You will learn there is more than just those feelings. Once you allow those feelings to stop controlling you, you will allow more space for more feelings and be happier. I think the more scared you allow yourself to deal with, the more your brain will realize oh wow we are not in danger and your anxiety will lessen. I was hopeless, but I got through it, everyone thinks they feel hopeless, but if you actually felt like that, you wouldn’t be here asking for help, you still have fight and work in you! reach out for help and try to get support from professional too

PRIV8

Date posted: 10w

@littleApple22 But i dont understand when people say let it feel but focus on something else. I cant focus on something else cause then im not aware of the feeling. If im award i cant focus on something else, and im just feeling bad. Many times what helps is when i say i dont care and move on but i do it like im avoiding the feeling, like im just pushing myself to focus on my life and not on the feeling. That what helped before, but i always do avoid then

PRIV8

Date posted: 10w

@PRIV8 I start to feel angry and frustrated cause this "sitting with it and accept it" only made me more prone to sickness and panic

littleApple22

Date posted: 10w

@PRIV8 I also became panic because of it because I was doing it wrong. You should read these links. What helped me was realizing I’m not supposed to try to throw the feelings and force myself to focus on something else. I acknowledge they’re there and they can stay, but I am not going to pay it attention and play its game by going through with thinking about it. Don’t try to force yourself to ignore it, do something else calmly like get up to walk or watch something. When the though pops up, I like to say “ahh that’s just an OCD thought I had, that’s okay if it’s here, I just won’t talk to it, but it can be here” the thought is not the issue, it’s the paying it attention. Reading those and practicing helped me a lot. You won’t just get it right away but working hard on trying it, helped me a bunch https://drmichaeljgreenberg.com/how-to-stop-paying-attention/ https://drmichaeljgreenberg.com/awareness-attention-distraction-and-rumination/

PRIV8

Date posted: 25w

This illness brings up intrusive feelings

I was told that this illness that im having now(some say its some kind of covid) is attacking people where they are the most sensitive, so it got my mental health and at first it was the fear of my health which im starting to face but now it got deeper and i have feelings of hopelessness and like a depressed feelings and thoughts like things wont get better. And i dont know where this comes from, im afraid this is actually what i believe. Dont know if its ocd or the illness actually made these problem come up what was pushed away by me... When i have these feelings my first reaction is fear and i dont know if its something i shouldnt give attention or the fear is actually bad and it makes me avoid the problem, so i should work on this depression... I dont know whats happening but its scarry and i dont like these dark thoughts. I think i suffer more because of the fear and shame of these thoughts but again i dont know if the fear and shame shows me that i dont need to give attention to these thoughts or the fear and shame actually blocks me to deal with these thoughts and feelings...

PRIV8

Date posted: 21w

Feeling emotions

I get alot of times that you should let yourself feel your emotions,now I kinda see the emotions i was struggling with before, and the problem might have been that i didnt let myself feel them, and i even think that thats why i experienced panic attacks. However im struggling again cause letting myself feel the emotions made me emotional and throughout the day many times i feel something that i dont know what to do with, giving them attention makes me spiral. Now its about my dog, for two days he vomitted out what he ate and now he doesnt want to eat his food, some food he does want but those are some human food that he shouldnt eat. But my mom brought chicken meat to him, he doesnt want to eat it, and she made something for him but he doesnt wants to eat that either...This makes me really sad cause im afraid i will lose him. I feel really bad when someone who i love is sick and with him its hard cause dogs cant tell you whats the problem. I have a deep sadness about it and fear and I let myself feel it but it gets so bad that it doesnt help me at all. I dont find it helpful, its just makes my day harder. Now again makes me angry if i hear someone saying you should feel all your feelings... Being aware of it, it takes your focus too, i never understood that, how you are aware of something and your focus does not move there... The bird exemple is not true for me, if i go out and hear a bird chirping either im aware of it and it takes my focus,or I enjoy it with the view, or I just notice it and then ignore it,I dont give so much attention to it. Right now birds are chirping, if i put my awarness there i notice them, but if i focus on here that im writing now, i dont notice them,i forget that birds are chirping...Its not like im aware of both... I agree that i should let myself feel more emotions cause alot of problems came there but I dont know where is the line and when im giving too much attention or when im dealing with them too much...

PRIV8

Date posted: 21w

What is this feeling that i feel?

For 3 days I had a feeling that came up pretty often and I cant name it, I dont know what is it and the more i try to see what is it the more i feel worse. Usually letting feeling be and letting yourself experience it helps but not with this. I find myself feel grumpier, triggered and more angry. Its a mix of fear, but then i get angry too and I dont find letting myself experience it helpful cause I just stuck there. It feels like its in my chest and when it gets triggered it makes things hard to enjoy. I tried to be kind with myself and see what causes it but trying to be kind with myself triggers this annoying feeling and it just gets worse... i dont know what helps thats why i ask your help, if you ever experienced this... also i what i almlst forgot to mention, what is really important is that i became really sensitive to every thought, and any thought can trigger this feeling or any thought can trigger a negative feeling that will trigger this feeling. And honestly the "just accept it and let yourself feel what you feel" doesnt helps here cause i find myself really angry that i have to let myself feel the emotions that are triggered by these intrusive thoughts...

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