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Tell me your worst breakup story
I want to hear people’s breakup stories so j don’t feel alone and crazy with mine.
I want to hear people’s breakup stories so j don’t feel alone and crazy with mine.
My decade-long relationship with my ex husband ended four years ago. It became clear he was unhappy and we were fighting a lot, so we decided to take a break. I packed what I could fit of mine and my son's stuff into the back of two cars, and I moved away from my home. I had every intention of going back. A couple of months later, it became clear that my ex wanted the separation to be permanent. Out of love for him, I ignored my own broken heart and agreed. I asked him out of respect for me navigating life without him (we had been together the entirety of our adult lives), if he could wait to start any relationships, just for a little while. He agreed. Fast forward a month and it came to light he was sleeping with a coworker who had moved in with him. They made it official three months after I left. It was one of the hardest chapters of my life, and the emotional agony was horrible, but looking back, I'm glad it happened. I found myself after it all fell apart, and four years later I am in a happy, healthy relationship and doing better than I ever have. I promise there is a light at the end of the tunnel. I'm sorry you're going through it.
i was never in an official relationship with this person because the timing was not right. but the way things ended felt like a breakup. i was also in a very toxic situationship(ish) situation with someone else when i met this guy. two days before i met him, i was sa’d. i started talking to this guy when a friend set us up. we lived about three hours away, and he lived in the same college town as my best friend. him and i instantly clicked and started facetiming for hours right after talking for a bit. a few days later he told my best friend that he was falling really fast, he was planning on eventually making it official, and he knew i was going to disneyland in a couple days so he bought a ticket and came to meet me one of the days i was there. he treated me the way a man should treat a girl for the weeks that we were “together.” he showed me the other toxic situation i was in was not okay for anyone, so i left it thanks to him. he was insanely respectful with me and it was right after the other horrible event that happened lol, so clearly i had a very quick emotional attachment to him. his (crazy manipulative) ex girlfriend who met me once through the friend that set us up found out i was talking to him, and through a lot of unfortunate events, he ended up saying he needed to take the summer to do no contact with me and her to decide what he wanted. i was pretty heart broken about it for a while, but he stayed in contact with my friend and would talk to her about his feelings about me, and things were seeming really good for the future of us possibly getting together. but, then i met someone else, brandon, and didn’t have any hope for it because i was planning on waiting for this other guy. but i fell for him despite not wanting to, and he fell for me. we ended up together, and the other guy texted me the day after my boyfriend and i made it official, saying he was ready to pick up where we left off. i told him it was too late, and we remained friends for a while until i realized staying friends while still having remains of feelings (brandon knew about my feelings and was okay with it, knowing what it was linked to and my ocd regarding relationships) was not healthy for my relationship. almost two years later and brandon and i are still together, healthy, and happier than ever. so heartbreak is temporary, and will lead to something even better.
@reese.04 omg that was long so sorry, just know that your pain is temporary and you are not alone. the heartbreak i went through with these, both the toxic relationship which i knew was best but it was still insanely hard, and the no contact with the guy who i so quickly fell for and attached to, as horrible but all worth it
I wanna hear you most extreme feeling you had from ROCD please I feel like I’m going insane
Hi - I’ve made a series of posts about my situation over the past few weeks. My bf asked to take a break from our relationship through text the first week of April. We haven’t spoken since. There’s a lot of outward details to this but I’ll try to keep it as simple as possible. My ocd is telling me the worst of the worst. He left me with full uncertainty because he didn’t give me a reason, and his decision felt like it happened overnight and I’m still so confused. He’s never been in a relationship as serious as this before. I’m incredibly hurt and angry, and my emotions get worse on Saturday and Friday nights because that’s when his frat parties happen. I do ERP phrases but my stomach hurts and it’s churning so bad. I deactivated/deleted social media apps for now because it’s too much. I just wish this physical feeling would stop. Does anyone have tips?
My partner broke up with my about 10 months ago. It came out of nowhere, and I got no explanation before they ghosted me and blocked me on all forms of contact. I have been horribly struggling since then with this obsessive need for closure. For a while I continued to try to reach out to them, on my own accord or through other people, but it just kept ending with more blocking. For months, I was going through the relationship and the breakup in my head over and over, picking it apart to try and figure out what went wrong, but without a conversation with my ex, I couldn't get anywhere. I am definitely doing much better now. the compulsions to reach out to her and the spiral obsession with figuring out what went wrong have both lessened. but they are still present, especially when I sleep. I really just want to be rid of the whole situation, but i want to do it in a healthy way without locking up my feelings. i really am at such a loss though. i still want answers and i still miss my ex in a lot of ways, but at the same time, the though of running into them scares the shit out of me. ive heard some horrible things about them since then, and how they have been spreading rumors about me behind my back. the situation cant seem to get any worse and it just keep happening. and it makes my ocd triggers so much worse too. idk, i will take literally any responses and any helpful advice.
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