18+ Intrusive thoughts during s3x

Sorry you are struggling with this. It sounds like a complex web of sexual theme ocd, including perhaps hocd. When you get the intrusive thoughts, it’s important to remind yourself that you can’t control them or prevent them from happening. However, you can control what you do in response. It also sounds like some reassurance/perfectionism/just right ocd thoughts and compulsions. The experience is uncomfortable and painful, and the intrusive nature is what is creating the real distress, not the content of the thoughts. Everyone has these type of thoughts, but they are shrugged off or given an eye roll as a silly quirk of the imagination. In OCD, they are magnified and given undue attention, hence the compulsions. I strongly recommend working with a therapist if you aren’t already. Exposures can work wonders in habituating to these thoughts and sensations, and reducing their frequency and intensity over time. Best of luck dear friend, recovery is always possible, and you can do it.

There’s probably an association with your therapist and the reality of OCD. Like by thinking of him/saying his name reminds you that you indeed have OCD and that’s reassuring because it nullifies your intrusive thoughts, so it gets all warped into your OCD. Instead of avoiding the intrusive thought, come up with a response that makes you accept the uncertainty around your fear. For me, I get intrusive thoughts immediately after climax too. “This was gross, I’m not into this, I’m not attracted to women/my gf, blablabla.” How do I beat those thought? By saying “hmmm interesting, maybe maybe not” and I go on living my life. It’s really hard but it’s how you beat OCD.

I didn’t want to avoid sex which ocd tries to make me do. I went into porn with intent of thinking of my wife. Its hard because ocd ha intrusive associations and resemblance thoughts so when i think of my wife ocd intrudes with relatives and kids who resemble her i think that was the initial intrusive thought so i panicked because i only wanna think of my wife. I panicked so the first thing that cane to mind was my therapist. But i remember the thought was just a couple seconds but i felt like forever and than i got anxious and hyperfocused that i thought of the male therapist during s3x. Im not homosexual and not attracted to him i just paniched from intrusive thought and thats what i jumped to push the intrusive thought out. Then ocd said was i dwelling on the thought or arousing. I thought of him and in my head said his name as a compulsion and distraction from pocd yet ocd twists that into hocd all during sex. Then i thought of my wife because that was my initial and only intent. I shouldve thought of her after the pocd thought butni was scared because of the ocd ideations that associate her with relatives and kids of our family so thats why i thought of the therapsit then felt uncomfortable and anxious and thougjt of my wife again

Whenever i get intrusive ideations like ill fantasize of my wife and ocd says our daughter or niece resembles her so i feel like i cant think of my wife. I have to do compulsions to reset my brain a d then think of her again. I know thinking of my therapist was a compulsion. But ocd said what if i said his name out loud? Or was it just a thought? I was watching porn of someone who reminds me of mynspouse and arousing myself over them and my wife. The other thoughts were intrusive ocd and the thought of my therapist a compulsion yet ocd tries to trick me make me feel guilty and say i aroused over my therapist

What is erp for this type of thing? Currently suffering the same sort of thing

I sadly have thoughts of my children come In 😞