17+ no below that or blocked —- What kind of theme is it, when your bf does something to you physically, but then you get worried that what if your bf did something actually really wrong to you physically, but you know he didn’t do anything wrong but your brain keeps saying that he did, so you have to make sure he didn’t or try to relieve it by proving it to not be true
i’ve gone through something similar, for me it was false memory partnering up with relationship ocd. NOCD has some really good and informative articles on each type of ocd and goes in depth about some fairly common thoughts each sub type has :)
It sounds like you may be looking for some reassurance that what you're experiencing is an established theme of OCD. While I can tell you that this is a variant of OCD that I have seen before in my work with members, sometimes it can get compulsive to need to label each OCD thought as a particular theme. OCD often gets very hung up on moral questions of right or wrong including consent. Those are important topics, so it is understandable why it would feel important to figure it out, but if you look at the big picture, you can see that that kind of repetitive behavior is a compulsion called rumination. The most important part is to recognize that the thought is distressing and to try not to respond with compulsions. An ERP therapist can help you to learn strategies for avoiding rumination. https://www.treatmyocd.com/blog/5-strategies-for-breaking-the-cycle-of-rumination
Are you an adult? Go see a doctor if you have ocd and tell them. Tell a family member or call rainn for sexual assault.
@Anonymous Because that is NOT what he did. You completely misunderstood the post, I made the post because he didn’t do anything wrong but my brain so trying to convince me that he is, next time be more careful before saying something like that.
@Anonymous I said he DIDNT do anything wrong, but my BRAIN is trying to say he is
@King silly When I read your reply I felt angry and attacked. Instead of telling me what I did "you misunderstood the post" and what to do "next time be more careful before saying something like that" I want to be asked what I understood and have a dialogue with you versus what occurred. If I'm asked I'm more likely to respond with compassion verses defensiveness. I'm human and fallible. I make mistakes. My mistakes do not cause someone's actions. I believe people on this app struggle not only w OCD. I myself have been sexually assaulted so my brain went right to that. Let's try to not shame others for being human and making a mistake. We don't know what they're going through. As an aside, what your asking for is reassurance. I named my ocd per my nocd therapist & I talk to her. When Agatha does what yours is doing now, I say a response prevention statement I worked on w my therapist & then tell Agatha she's safe, and we're safe and ask her what she's scared about and I say ok well we're not going to focus on that now and I go read a books, journal, or listen or music, go to the gym etc.
@Anonymous I apologize for coming off that way, i completely misunderstood your intentions, I thought I had made it clear what I was stating in my post, and I thought you were labeling him something he wasn’t because I did say that he didn’t do anything wrong, but I get now you were trying to help and you misunderstood, thanks for your help
TMI!! Hey everyone, I was coming on here to ask if anyone has experienced this before! Im in an amazing relationship with my boyfriend so in this post I wanted to ask this question because this is how it felt to me! I remembered earlier today I was watching this movie, etc. and there was this spicy scene in it (iykyk) and it got me feeling some sort of way. This has happened before especially if I’ve played a game or watched a show with some content like this. I felt really in the mood and started to imagine my boyfriend and I doing those things together and I sort of decided to (yanno, the m word) hopefully everyone understands because I just don’t like saying the word😭, but I found that every time I do that, that’s when my ocd is at its worst/peak. Every time my mind has tried to convince me I’ve cheated, when I self pleasure. I get in the mood if I think of my boyfriend and I doing those things I see in movies, shows etc, and that’s when I’ll do it, But literally I realized after I’ve done that at times my ocd is at its worst because my mind will attack me constantly asking “Is this cheating? Does this make me a horrible girlfriend?” If I self pleasure, I also want to add that I mentioned it to my boyfriend at one time and he told me it wasn’t at all and that everything is okay, but constantly I feel guilty for it and extremely horrible. Just wanted to see if anyone else has experienced this?
I was on YouTube looking for saw traps I scenes and I see a saw 5 playlist and I was a bit horny because I was thinking of the guy I’m talking to and it’s like what if the playlist had inappropriate stuff on kids and I got arosal and then I got worried and went to see if there was stuff on kids there The gronial response gets intense I felt arousal because of the idea I might find content of kids there I think I’m a p how is this ocd I get worried when I open playlists or images because I’m going to think there’s inappropriate stuff and I don’t want to accidentally see it and I feel guilty afterwards I feel like I also touched my brother inappropriately I asked if I ever did anything he said no but what if he thinks it’s not wrong or he’s not telling me the truth
Hi everyone, I’ve already been diagnosed with OCD, and I strongly suspect that I’ve developed a ROCD pattern. I wanted to share a specific situation that just won’t leave me alone – even though it’s objectively been cleared up. I’m in a relationship with a man who is, by nature, a very transparent, honest, and loyal person. Rationally, I know I can trust him. Recently, he got a phone call while I was with him. I asked him to check who it was. He hesitated briefly and then checked kind of slowly – the number wasn’t saved. To me, the whole thing just felt a bit strange. It didn’t seem like “open behavior,” even though he told me afterward that he simply didn’t have the energy to deal with it, since he had generally had a bad day. The problem is: Even after this explanation – which makes sense – the thoughts won’t go away. I keep replaying the situation in my head, analyzing his reaction, wondering if that hesitation meant something – even though I know he didn’t do anything wrong. I feel like I need to bring it up again to feel at ease. But I also know that would only bring temporary relief, and then the cycle would start all over again. It feels just like other OCD loops – only this time, it’s centered around my relationship. Have any of you experienced something like this? How do you stop yourself from falling into the reassurance trap over and over again? I don’t want to overwhelm or hurt my partner unnecessarily – I just want to learn how to manage this inner tension better. did it sound like ocd?? Rocd?? Thanks for reading. It really helps to know I’m not alone. (edited)
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