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Sexual orientation ocd
Can sexual orientation ocd make you act on your fears and make you have same sex experiences ever and then after the experience realize that’s not what you are or want?
Can sexual orientation ocd make you act on your fears and make you have same sex experiences ever and then after the experience realize that’s not what you are or want?
Oh so essentially you did something with someone of the same sex and didn’t enjoy it… Trust me OCD is going to make it feel as real as possible. That’s why it’s a mental disorder it’s gonna make you think you truly are gonna make you think you truly want it. It’s gonna make you feel that you have no idea who you are. I tried to force myself to get off to the thought and actually got aroused and hated it. Other people have to.
@Anonymous Okay. My mind keeps replaying what happened and made me think like ok I got off and enjoyed it but like I am not gay at all
@Anonymous my mind tells me to think about it and like try enjoy it too, but naturally like my brain would never think of that, makes me feel lost right now
@Anonymous I as this something you recently did?
@Anonymous yea, didn’t want to, been dealing with hocd for like 9 months
@anonymous1348 Did you act on it?
@Anonymous wdym ? i’ve never like got with a girl no ?
Of course. Just keep at it with your therapist. I’m sure it’s questioned you to the core and I’ll keep doing that, but you have to sit with the uncertainty.
Hey! I’m glad to see you’re getting support from the community. I can’t say I relate to this specific theme, but I do understand the obsessive need to “know for sure” and then regretting my actions afterward. In my case, OCD latched onto a real event. I felt this intense urge to confess to an old friend why I ended our friendship. We hadn’t spoken in years, but my OCD convinced me that I was a bad person for not ‘owning up’ to it. So, I called and confessed, only to regret it when her reaction wasn’t positive. That experience taught me something; giving into the compulsion didn’t bring clarity, just more confusion. When OCD demands answers, it’s easy to act from a place of urgency rather than values. If you’re questioning an experience, try to sit with the discomfort instead of rushing to label it. Maybe it wasn’t for you this time or maybe it will be in the future. Or maybe not at all, clarity comes when you stop chasing certainty. Delay labeling until the noise of OCD quiets down, so your choices come from who you are, not what OCD tells you to fear. I am glad your seeking Theraphy! It was an amazing tool for me, bring more clarity into OCD!
OCD, especially when it involves themes of sexual orientation, can create intense doubt and distress. It can push people toward compulsions like testing or seeking reassurance, which can sometimes include acting on fears. However, attraction and identity are deeper than any single experience. The key with OCD is to recognize that compulsions (including overanalyzing experiences) can actually reinforce doubt rather than provide clarity. If this is distressing, therapy, especially ERP, can help manage the anxiety and uncertainty without needing to act on compulsions.
Can you elaborate on act on your fears?
@Anonymous Like have a sexual encounter with the same sex
@Anonymous But then realize that after you do it it’s not what you want and realize you’re not gay
If you don’t mind me asking, did you do it with a girl or guy?
@Anonymous It was guy on guy
Also, you gotta live with the uncertainty of maybe you do enjoy it maybe you don’t. You gotta continue living on with your life.
@Anonymous It’s more like I know I am not gay but like it happened and it freaks me out
Make sure you’re seeing a therapist
@Anonymous Yes I am! Thank you
OCD is gonna play so many mind tricks. It’s gonna question you to the core. Trust me when I tell you you cannot allow it to control your life. I’ve had it for four years now and I have it every single day.
@Anonymous Okay. Thank you!!
You have to chip away with the uncertainty of things and work on your beliefs
If you don’t mind me asking, how old are you?
@Anonymous 26
Gotcha and this is the first time you’re experiencing HOCD
@Anonymous Well I have had OCD my whole life but this is the first time this is where the ocd thought have attached to this subject
Gotcha, and when this started the first thing that I made you think of was to act on it I’m assuming. Perfectly normal by the way, so don’t get freaked out.
@Anonymous Thank you. This is so helpful to know that these thoughts and fears are normal ocd thoughts and fears
Hi there! I suspect that answering this question might just lead to more questions for you and that there is not any answer that will be helpful. How would you feel about just allowing yourself to sit in that uncomfortable uncertainty? If you have had the good fortune to experience effective ERP (exposure response treatment, which is the evidence-based go to for OCD) then you may recognize your question as a reassurance-seeking compulsion. If you have not have effective ERP treatment, why don't you give us a call to schedule an appointment? NOCD therapists are highly trained to help you practice interventions to manage your thoughts around your fears. treatmyocd.com Maybe I'll see you on the other side! Best to you!
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