Alot of problems made me spiral and fall back

Alot happened since christmas and i feel like i not doing well right now. I cant deal with stress and anxiety/panic, i dont know how to respond to those emotions and im being hard on myself again. It makes me angry when i hear "its normal to feel that, accept it" cause in a way i know what it means but i need help about what to do with it cause sitting and accepting what i feel makes me just stay in this dark hole. If i get a panic about something, i start to react to that and when i want to change my reaction it triggers me cause i feel like im trying to change my emotions, but then what to do? Again just staying with how i feel and the reaction will feed it more and more, i know the basic saying that you should do nothing about it, but if you do nothing then you do the same thing you did before and never learn a new way... The reactions are so strong i cant control it and it adds more negative feelings like fear, and if i have to accept them too then i go nowhere... i just accept that i add more fear to my problem... it doesnt make any sense... im struggling with alot of stress and anxiety and worry with physical symptoms and i dont know how to react to them in a way that i wont feed them, or what to do with the negative reactions that comes automatically.

Tea and Honey

Date posted: 27w

I think it will help to add to your life one key difference: You can accept that you are having these negative emotions, but you shouldn’t believe that the emotions are true. For example, I might have thoughts or feelings that I’m probably going to hell, because my OCD centers on religious things. I can ACCEPT that I have these feelings. I don’t need to try to change these feelings. HOWEVER, I do need to know that these feelings are NOT TRUE. Deep down, I know that I am not going to hell. And I can focus on the real truths like “I am okay… I am not to hell.” Etc. So I think the key difference is that we can’t accept that we’re having feelings while still denying that those feelings hold any truth. Instead, we need to hold onto the real truth and feed our minds with those real truths

PRIV8

Date posted: 27w

Okay but when its fear about health or your loved ones health or any fear about the future, like i just had a thought that i will not be able to handle this summer cause all i will think will be my dog who i lost last summer and it made me scared and depressed for a moment. These things expecially health fears are things that you never know, you cant know...

Tea and Honey

Date posted: 27w

@PRIV8 I have heard Nathan Peterson talk about something similar to this on his YouTube channel for OCD. He essentially says that unless a fear is absolutely clear and staring you right in the face (like your doctor tells you straight out that you have terminal cancer), you go ahead and “risk“ living your life as if that fear did not exist. That means you go ahead and do all the things that you would normally do if you did not have that fear. This means that the fear might still rankle around in your brain, but it does not have the power to affect your way of living. So, in one sense, you accept the fears (because they WILL still rankle around in your brain). But in another sense, you reject the fears (because you are living your life, exactly the way you want to, despite the fact that the fears still exist).

Anonymous

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 27w

I truly understand how you feel and currently feel the same way. It’s really hard becasue I’ve gone through really bad rocd and have felt that i conquered it. And I just recently felt like my rocd got really bad again. I try to tell myself all the steps to help ease it but when you are in the thick of it, it feels so hopeless and nothing honestly feels like it helps. But I just try to remember that these thoughts cause so much distress becasue they are not true and I try to focus on the how and be so happy with life. A roof over my head. Food to eat. Water to drink. I just try to remember to be grateful and take it one day at a time even if it feels so hard to do that.

PRIV8

Date posted: 27w

I dont try to be rude, i understand your situation its like when i had suicidal ocd or any type of ocd that makes you think youre a bad person. Thats different than being afraid of health issues, or like now my dog ate a dead mouse and im afraid that something bad will happen to him, this is not like those things cause you cant go to the future and tell if he will be sick or not. I dont say that yours is easy or not difficult, it is difficult, i know cause i had the same thing,but the two are different things. I cant say to my health fears that i will never become ill, its a lie...

PRIV8

Date posted: 22w

Feeling emotions

I get alot of times that you should let yourself feel your emotions,now I kinda see the emotions i was struggling with before, and the problem might have been that i didnt let myself feel them, and i even think that thats why i experienced panic attacks. However im struggling again cause letting myself feel the emotions made me emotional and throughout the day many times i feel something that i dont know what to do with, giving them attention makes me spiral. Now its about my dog, for two days he vomitted out what he ate and now he doesnt want to eat his food, some food he does want but those are some human food that he shouldnt eat. But my mom brought chicken meat to him, he doesnt want to eat it, and she made something for him but he doesnt wants to eat that either...This makes me really sad cause im afraid i will lose him. I feel really bad when someone who i love is sick and with him its hard cause dogs cant tell you whats the problem. I have a deep sadness about it and fear and I let myself feel it but it gets so bad that it doesnt help me at all. I dont find it helpful, its just makes my day harder. Now again makes me angry if i hear someone saying you should feel all your feelings... Being aware of it, it takes your focus too, i never understood that, how you are aware of something and your focus does not move there... The bird exemple is not true for me, if i go out and hear a bird chirping either im aware of it and it takes my focus,or I enjoy it with the view, or I just notice it and then ignore it,I dont give so much attention to it. Right now birds are chirping, if i put my awarness there i notice them, but if i focus on here that im writing now, i dont notice them,i forget that birds are chirping...Its not like im aware of both... I agree that i should let myself feel more emotions cause alot of problems came there but I dont know where is the line and when im giving too much attention or when im dealing with them too much...

PRIV8

Date posted: 21w

What is this feeling that i feel?

For 3 days I had a feeling that came up pretty often and I cant name it, I dont know what is it and the more i try to see what is it the more i feel worse. Usually letting feeling be and letting yourself experience it helps but not with this. I find myself feel grumpier, triggered and more angry. Its a mix of fear, but then i get angry too and I dont find letting myself experience it helpful cause I just stuck there. It feels like its in my chest and when it gets triggered it makes things hard to enjoy. I tried to be kind with myself and see what causes it but trying to be kind with myself triggers this annoying feeling and it just gets worse... i dont know what helps thats why i ask your help, if you ever experienced this... also i what i almlst forgot to mention, what is really important is that i became really sensitive to every thought, and any thought can trigger this feeling or any thought can trigger a negative feeling that will trigger this feeling. And honestly the "just accept it and let yourself feel what you feel" doesnt helps here cause i find myself really angry that i have to let myself feel the emotions that are triggered by these intrusive thoughts...

PRIV8

Date posted: 11w

How do you stop panicking?

I don't have panic attacks at this moment, but i realized if i will have again I don't know how to stop it, there's people who say "trying to stop it feeds more" and that's why i get stuck with it cause then i try to sit with it and i just get stuck or go with the panic. Many times when i try to stop feeding itit gets worse, i think that im doing something wrong or i just feel like it does not work cause when i try to stop the panic gets stronger, then im panicking over do I take the danger seriously. I try deep breathing and moving my attention but i know i do that to avoid the panic which makes me panic more. And then i feel angry cause people say "sit with it" and i dont know what they mean, like everytime i get a panic just accept defeat, lay down and wait till all the symptoms just goes away... cause you cant control it. So if i want to face it, accept i might faint, vomit, get taken to the hospital, and just face it. These are the more negative ones I know, but even with others i feel like its defeat cause I have to stop whatever i do and i need to accept that panic will take me wherever it wants... Im open to change my opinion over this, but with the "accept it" menthod i feel like it looks like this and thats why I don't like it. How do you deal with panic? Do you stop it or you always give that moment to the panic?

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