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I double texted a girl that I really like today (we just started talking last week) and I'm kind of going insane now... is double texting actually that bad or am I having a flare-up?
I double texted a girl that I really like today (we just started talking last week) and I'm kind of going insane now... is double texting actually that bad or am I having a flare-up?
When I started dating my boyfriend I loved getting double, triple, quadruple texts. Still do!
Well, double-texting is never a good idea, unless you truly forgot to add something to the last one or you needed to add a pic and you did it separately. Here’s how you save yourself. Do nothing now. Wait for the reply. Then answer back either 3-4 hours later or better yet the next day.
nah I sent 2 messages and then 20min later I remembered I said something completely stupid, I deleted the second one and resent the corrected version 20min after
@ocdbelowzero they are 20mins apart basically
@ocdbelowzero That’s ok, just do nothing now. Wait it out, and then some. When you like someone, it’s so hard not to answer back fast. Unfortunately, in this world.. it comes off as desperate. I didn’t make the rules, I just play by them. And hate them.
this is just what being in a new relationship is about lol. Not everyone cares about double texting. i am a quadruple texter but I do remember the fear and over analyzing of a brand new budding relationship and overthinking every move. Your OCD may or may not be involved in this but the good news is, either way, you treat both situations the same. you accept the uncertainty and just wait for her response.
she responded, we are having a conversation but I am tweaking and then I'm tweaking some more for no reason
@ocdbelowzero - Thats normal lol you're in new relationship territory. how old are you if I may ask?
@TexasOCD41 I am 19 years old, she is 21
@ocdbelowzero - yep. You are just young ( im 33 and married) but I remember being in your EXACT same shoes. I'm sure our OCD and tendency towards anxiety makes these things a bit harder to navigate but I think your experiencing butterfly because you like her and you don't wanna mess anything up. Just try to enjoy the thing, have fun. ACCEPT UNCERTAINTY.
@TexasOCD41 thx man. so far it's going good, we have chemistry and a date on Friday, but I have to get this shit under control cause I know I'm stressing about things that I should not at all
@ocdbelowzero - well just know you are normal, everyone does it. stop trying to be in control and go with the flow. no 19 year old has their shit together.im 33 and I still don't. girls like guys who don't try to control everything and let awkward things happen, they think its cute. just breathe and have fun :) good luck Friday..
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