- Username
- Magzzz
- Date posted
- 21w ago
Not ocd related. Need to vent š
I have not once felt loved by my mom. Growing up she was always emotionally distant and would get mad at me so easily (and still does). She has threatened multiple times when I was younger that she would hit me (and has once even though she apologized) She yells at me for the dumbest things. Iām 25 and still live at home because I am a full time college student and I canāt afford to move out with the job I have. Sheās not my biological mother because she adopted me when I was born and took me away from my biological parents who I was told would be a bad situation to put me in and took me out of it. She is technically my aunt, my biological fatherās sister. My father apparently didnāt get along with her growing up and treated her badly. I never even met him after I was really little and he had visitation rights. He passed away in 2013 so I never really got to be around him or know him or vice versa. She talks bad about him and you can tell she hated my biological father but I feel like she carries that hate onto me also even though I have never done anything to her. Sheās even told me Iām like him when I have no idea how thatās possible if we didnāt have a relationship. She gets mad when Iām sick and if I even open up about how I feel about something she shuts me down and tells me that itās my fault. Sheās called me so many names that have torn me apart to the point I absolutely hate myself and didnāt even want to be around anymore. She scares me sometimes when she gets angry and I just donāt know what I ever done to make her hate me. Recently I ended up having Covid (for the second time) and she didnāt even care. She told me I was fine and that it was all in my head. I rarely can stick up for myself but when I told her she never believes me when Iām sick and needed to be more compassionate she said āf uā and ever since things have been worse. Growing up whenever I would achieve something she didnāt care. I was in orchestra growing up and during my concerts she would always be on her phone not paying attention and then afterwards didnāt say a thing when my grandma and dad would make comments. I donāt know if Iām overthinking this and I donāt know if any of it is considered wrong on her part or if Iām the problem. Before my dad (her husband and only father figure Iāve ever had) passed away, he made me promise to forgive her but I donāt think I can. I will always remember how hurt sheās made me feel. I have always felt hated by my mom. Now I feel like I hate her and I feel so much guilt for that. I wish I could get away but unfortunately I canāt. I donāt want to sound ungrateful. Itās a pain I would never wish on anyone. She posts on social media about peoples behavior but yet she acts that way in private and thatās what has triggered all of this because how can you post on social media about people acting that way or saying that what you say to people matters but yet you do that too. Iām sorry to vent like this but I have no one to go to. This is my only safe place š