How to get over the past

How do you get over your past when you’ve never got closure and you know multiple people hate you and bitch about you and you can’t change how they feel or show how much you have grown? I’ve deep down hated myself for my past and people saying I was mean to them when I was 12-15 years old and I’ve never forgave myself and I don’t think I ever will How can you let go because today when I meet anyone I get paranoid that someone has spoken to them about how I used to be and they won’t like me I find it really hard because my past has followed me my whole life

Username: amm22406amm22406

Date posted: 21w ago

Try to remember that others opinions shouldn’t affect your life. What’s most important is you accept your past self for who you were. Try to find the root of your behavior. Diagnose it, accept it, and NEVER feel ashamed. Now when it comes to others, all you can do is try. When meeting someone new try to look at it as an opportunity to show how much you’ve changed. Your purpose in life is not to prove yourself to people, but to discover who you really are. Your past will always be there, stop trying to run from it. I promise there’s no better feeling than self acceptance. Loving yourself is the hardest thing to do. We are our own biggest critiques.

Username: AnonymousAnonymous

Date posted: 21w ago

@amm22406 Thank you so so much. I’m really trying to love myself and have compassion.. but it’s definitely a battle. I really appreciate your comment thank you

Username: AnonymousAnonymous

Date posted: 21w ago

No one who loves you is going to care how you acted when you were 12 to 15 years old

Username: AnonymousAnonymous

Date posted: 21w ago

@Anonymous Yeah I hope so :(

Username: AnonymousAnonymous

Date posted: 21w ago

Growing up as a young boy I can remember that young boys did mean things to each other all the time. Everybody grew up and the past was the past. Even if you are concerned about some issues in your past why don't you date people who are outside of that social circle?

Username: AnonymousAnonymous

Date posted: 21w ago

@Anonymous Oh I’m not even NEAR that social circle anymore but I always get afraid something will come back to bite me in the future like I’ll bump into someone from there and something bad will happen

Username: Abs

Date posted: 23w ago

Things i did as a kid

How do I forgive myself for things I did as a kid? Disgusting terrible illegal things? I’m grown and I would never do them now, but how do I move on?

Username: Mnkeyman

Date posted: 17w ago

How do I forgive myself for past mistakes

Does anyone have any coping mechanisms for helping to relieve guilt from things I have done in my past that I don’t like that I did?

Username: sick&tired

Date posted: 15w ago

What if I don’t deserve..

A good life, success, healing, beautiful things? ⚠️ Important: please don’t read if this is triggering. No one should think this way about themselves, of course you deserve it all. I struggle with real events and harm OCD. My worst fear is being a bad person, causing harm or doing the wrong thing. These thoughts haunt me all the time and cause me to essentially throw my life away. I don’t go out, pursue opportunities, etc. because what if I don’t deserve them? I think of the worst things I’ve ever done all the time. The things that I’m most ashamed of. Like a broken record that’s all I replay in my head. Doesn’t matter if it was 5 or 10 years ago. And I beat myself up for not doing better. And I just don’t know how to move past it. I’ve read a lot of quotes and books about self help and love and acceptance (e.g. once you know better, do better). But for me I feel like I have to hate myself forever. I won’t ever get a clean slate, there’s a permanent stain on my record. I just can’t forgive myself, whether other people know it or not, I can’t allow myself to move forward. It’s about integrity for me. Does anyone relate? How do you do it? I’m so sorry if you’re also struggling. I don’t wish this for anyone. Please keep fighting, you’re not alone. ❤️

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