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Skin picking
I’m not sure how to stop picking at my skin. It makes me sad to always see scabs all over my face, it ruins all my pictures. Any tips?
I’m not sure how to stop picking at my skin. It makes me sad to always see scabs all over my face, it ruins all my pictures. Any tips?
Record how you feel before you pick. Record how you feel during picking. Record how you feel after picking. The after was always tragic for me.. eventually you can recognize the before feelings quicker and will want to prevent yourself from getting to the after feelings. Every single time you fight through the urge and don’t pick, you weaken it. Imagine each time you fight through the “urge hump” becomes less and less steep. I worked with a behavioral therapist for years with this and the imagery of that hump flattening still stays with me. Hope this helps and you will be always be okay
@DD115 Thank you so much for sharing your experience and advice with me. 💗
Two things have really helped me in my skin picking journey! One would be, keep your hands busy! I highly recommend something like slime or even a picky pad! Two, funny enough is fake nails. I understand not everyone would want nails on, but they are perfectly rounded and unable to pierce skin. Once it heals it will get easier as there will be less scabs. This is what has worked for me, hope it helps!
@lizzibabe Thank you! I appreciate it💗
Hey! I used to struggle with this really bad, but I’ve made significant progress. What are your triggers? And when do you usually pick? (For example, only in front of mirrors? Only at night? etc)
@catladymeow111 I definitely do it more in front of a mirror, but I feel like I do it all day long no matter what. What hailed helped
@Banana413 A few things have helped me, so i’m going to list them all, sorry for the long message! : 1. A face washing routine. This is so hard to keep consistent, but romanticizing taking care of yourself and washing your face is a great way to practice self care and become a “caregiver” of your face rather than try to hurt it. You want to love your face, not harm it. Rewiring your brain to touch your face with only gentle love is a great place to start. 2. Making yourself extremely aware when you’re about to start picking / before you even start. For me, I would pick and daydream, so I wouldn’t even realize I was doing it. I would think about what is stressing me out or just think about anything at all. Now, I make myself very aware before I do it, and I repeat to myself “look don’t touch” in front of a mirror, because I know if I touch, it will have consequences (scabs, lowering my self esteem, causing more acne, etc). 3. Repetitive positive thoughts. Think about how relieving it will be to reduce this habit. “If I don’t pick, I will feel so good about myself.” “I love my face, so I won’t pick it.” You can even say “I don’t pick my face anymore” and stop immediately. Whatever will work for you. 4. Journaling. Write down all the reasons why you want to stop picking, how it will make you feel better about yourself, how you strive to have selfies without worrying about scabs. Write down your goals. This is so hard. I still pick to this day, but my face picking is very, very minimal because I repeat to myself “look don’t touch. I don’t want to hurt my face.” Maybe your positive thoughts will look different than mine, but practicing resisting the urge with repetitive thoughts and discipline will go a long way. You don’t have to deal with the consequences of picking your face, you can prevent them, and I think that’s a great thing to look forward to as your journey begins. You will see progress, and you will feel proud of yourself! And of course, bad days happen. Those are a part of progress, and you are not alone
@catladymeow111 my main issue currently is dermatillomania and picking my face so I’m looking through this app for help, and this comment is so so good! Thank you!
I’m having some trouble believing that reducing skin picking is really achievable. It’s been part of my life for a long time. Is it really possible to get it under control?
Does anyone have any good tips on how to reduce the urge to pick your skin? I wasn’t aware that this was something often associated with OCD until my therapist told me about it. I regularly engage in skin picking especially on my face and it has made my acne even worse and lead to scarring. I don’t want to continue doing it but sometimes I just do it without even realizing I’m doing it.
Hiiii, I’m Sara 💖 and I have Severe OCD 🧠, Severe Excoriation Disorder ✋, ADHD ⚡, GAD 😰, and Major Depressive Disorder 🌧️. I love using emojis if you haven’t noticed lol. To keep this as straightforward as possible I want to focus on the OCD and dermatillomania part today. I hope this can help some people 💬 and maybe give others a better understanding of what it’s like to live with these two issues! ☺️ I have always struggled with skin picking, especially on my face 😔, and it has made my acne worse and caused scarring. 🤕 I did not realize until my therapist told me that it can be connected to OCD. Sometimes I do not even notice I am doing it, and other times I am aware but cannot stop. 😓 For me, the OCD side is often tied to perfectionism or needing that just right feeling. 🫠 From thoroughly washing my face and hands, overusing or meticulously applying products to make sure the “ritual” is done perfectly takes both time and money. To having picking episodes which causes scars to heal slower⏳ and to also leave me with a “pepperoni face” 🍕 from all the red and raw wounds or with widespread hyperpigmentation that lingers for months. Oof 😅 ERP IS A LIFE SAVER!!! 🛟 Addressing that OCD pattern is a big part of ERP, Exposure and Response Prevention 🚪. ERP helps you face the discomfort without picking or fixing, so over time your brain learns the urge does not need to be acted on. 😤 Behold~ another technique, HRT! Habit Reversal Training can still be part of treatment, but timing matters ⏰. If OCD is the main driver, starting HRT too early, especially if it leans on avoiding triggers, can unintentionally strengthen the OCD cycle 🔄. That is why ERP often comes first, and HRT is added later once the compulsion has weakened. 🤗 Skincare time! Oooo la la la 🤭 For wound care 🩹, I keep it simple. When the skin is still open, I use a gentle cleanser 🫧, a moisturizer 💧, and Aquaphor directly on the wound, then keep it covered to protect it from bacteria 🦠 and UV exposure 🌞. Once the wound has closed and turned pink 🌸, I use a gentle cleanser, a moisturizer, a scar cream, and SPF daily to prevent discoloration and help the scar fade. Fidget toys 🪀 do not work for everyone (Ik people who love it 😍), but ERP paired with steady skin care has made the biggest difference for me ✨. If possible, I recommend seeing a dermatologist 🩺 to help heal your skin and give you tools for long term care, and ask directly if they understand skin picking and OCD and will keep that diagnosis in mind while treating you. Progress is absolutely not linear 📉📈. You will have times when you pick or have an episode, even when your skin has been looking great. 😥 That does not mean failure ❌. In OCD, compulsions are rewarded in the moment because anxiety drops after you do them, so the brain learns that the behavior works 🤥. ERP builds new learning that competes with the old habit rather than erasing it, which means stress, hormones, sleep loss, or strong cues can still light up the old pathway at times ⚡. The goal of therapy and strategies is not to create a life with zero urges 🚫, but to help you navigate 🧭 life with OCD by reducing how often urges show up, how intense they feel, and how quickly you recover when they happen. Most important part EVERR 😮💨🥰 The most important part of this process is practicing self compassion 💕 and remembering that no one is perfect 🌼. Every lapse is information you can use for the next step forward! 🫂 Thanks for listening to my Ted talk! 😄 (edited) (edited)
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