I find it really hard to make decisions-especially big life decisions. People ask "what does your intuition say", but I feel like I can't access my intuition- I feel doubtful/question all thoughts+decisions. Are there any resouces anyone could recommend?
By the way, I’m wondering if this is your OCD talking? Just be careful and aware of the three R’s: Research, Rumination, Reassurance. They are your enemy. They will help you feel better in the short term. When you’re spiking, you’ll do anything to feel better. Go for a walk. If you have a dog, take them. (My dog and I walk about 6 to 9 miles a day). Read a book. Call a friend. Whatever your theme is, you’re going to get stuck on this “is this OCD?” or “am I doing the right thing”. Your response is “maybe, maybe not” and then make a decision and go with it. If your OCD wants to second guess it, say “YUP, maybe & maybe not”. There are some great resources to help educate you. Nathan Peterson on YouTube is great. If you like to read, Stopping the Noise in Your Head or Stop Obsessing (Reid Wilson, MD).
Mine can be tough I think for some, but I like to run things objectively by my family, my mom specifically and sometimes my grampa because they are the most objective people I feel. I lay it out and listen to them and compare it against what I want/what I feel is my gut feeling, and draw a conclusion. So not exactly reassurance, I won’t tell them what I’m thinking before I get their opinion. Afterwards I’ll tell them my thoughts and we discuss. This works well for me
I agree with ranger to live with the uncertainty, but I find this is a good way to hone my gut feeling you know, learn to listen to myself. I don’t know if this makes any sense lol
Thank you Glücklich, this response is helpful, as is Ranger's...I think because of black and white thinking, I interpret any discussion with others as reassurance-seeking and I hear I'm supposed to resist that,so I feel bad if I do it...same with Research, I think I should do no research because I worry any research is a compulsion...I think OCD makes balance a really tricky concept to define- I know there's no definitive answer around "the right balance", I just find it hard to indentify when research/reassurance tips from functional to pathological, but Im just starting to learn so hopefully I'll understand better in time ☺️
Hi Everyone I need some advice on how to decide what to do with myself. I can’t seem to find a way to make any decisions without doubting and It’s driving me insane because I don’t know how to help myself with my decision making
I think im asking my intuition/spirit guides, and I mean ANY decision... Should i go eat, should i eat this or that, should i drink this, should i go do this or that, even in video games. It's everything from tiny choices to important ones. I think its some form of me making sure I do the thing in my best interest or whichever will have the best outcome for me, and i don't want anything with a bad outcome. Im not exactly sure when I started doing this but I've had it bad for at least 2+ years now. I feel like it's driving me insane because I KNOW i want to stop, even my spirit guides remind me i have to make my own choices because that's how life works, we aren't born knowing what's going to happen for a reason. Yet, I can't seem to stop myself. The worst part is, it's never decisive. I can't tell the difference between my OCD thought and my intuition, so I actually drive myself INSANE not being able to make rhe right choice, even with the small things like whar to eat. It makes me want to tear my hair out, it's so stressful for me. This is daily too, I don't know what to do to get rid of it anymore. I even tell myself sometimes when i ask to just do what I WANT to do, but my OCD fights me... Please help
I can’t tell what’s right and wrong anymore. It’s like my moral compass/rationality is completely broken. I could just shut my feelings down whenever. It might sound like a good thing but it also means I wouldn’t feel any remorse or guilt or negative emotions if I were to do something immoral (hypothetically speaking). In contrast, sometimes my feelings get so deep in the way that my rationality cannot win no matter what. My brain does that out of nowhere and I hate it because it ends up triggering my OCD theme and I have to start back up to be able to cope again. It’s like I’ve developed this intense intolerance towards any sort of stress whatsoever, even the good type of stress that helps you grow. My brain just shuts down and mentally I become a kid again and I can’t listen to logic no matter what.
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