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@IloveDieguito its like i tried challenging myself abt not telling him i was hanging out w the girls to check if it was a compulsion but it did make me feel worse which in turn probably proves it is a compulsion. but i don't want that? like i j want to update my bf and not feel liie obligated or anything

@Anonymous and even every night or every time we sleep we say kisses and i love u and goodnight and just a big paragraph sometimes and if i dont say i love u kisses and goodnight i feel bad but sometimes i feel like i dont wanna say it or smt and then i say it anyway but i dont want that to be a compulsion bcs its just routine?? i feel so weird

@Anonymous Hi again:) thank you for answering. Also I had done these types of compulssion that had made me feel this bad. And I get you totally. I know how horrifying it can get to feel this way, OCD is no joke. Remember that because of the fact that you care about your feelings towards any type of interaction with your boyfriend or means that you care about him and you don't want to loose him. Please try to not Tell what you do as a confession to your boyfriend, it's something that will make you feel more exhausted and it's probably one of the reasons you are starting to feel like if it was more of an obligation when you don't want it to be

@Anonymous Yes I understand this as well. Mine was a bit diffyi felt that if I told my boyfriend that I loved him then I was lying. And actually created a whole thing with insecurity for myself because my boy started not saying it either but for him it wasn't that big of a deal but it made me feel horrible. The way we fixed that situation was talking with him about how it made me feel. Not as a compulssion just as open communication in our relationship. And of course I made him knythat there is OCD lurking in the topic as well. And he understands completely. I would encourage you to explain these things but please don't use it as a compulssion

@IloveDieguito its kinda hard to explain to him the specificities behind ocd. but how do i handle this compulsion without ruining the routine i have w my bf. sometimes i dont give many details so its not necessarily confession but any time i text him abt my day or saying goodnight i love u, i still feel thag feeling of i don't want to but i do it anyway and ik if i didn't do it i'd feel guilty so it feels like its a compulsion?? but idk how to fix that

I also do this, and my boyfriend himself has noticed it joking around that I sound like a news reporter (saying everything that happens with me or that I do) like I even mention if I have talked with another guy, like this dude would always come up to me and it made me a bit uncomfortable, and once a 20+ year old man asked for my phone number ( I'm a minor 😐) so I felt it was my fault that happened and immediately told my boyfriend as a confession. This is why my therapist told me that a good exposure for this especific case is to do thinylike talking to some random guy and not tell my boy. I think something you could do if you think it's a compulssion, you could tell him an overall context like: I went out, and talked with someone. Not say especific things. Remember that it isn't necessary

And I don't know if you are saying this same thiybut I feel the necessity that everyone needs to know about my boyfriend even with family because then I'm hiding him and stuff like that

Same here! And if you want any advice that might help, I posted a reply in this same post if you would like to read it:)