Why did I have to have ocd?? Why could I just be normal? This has been bothering me so much. I don’t know anybody that struggles with this, but the fact that this could get passed down to my children is terrifying. I don’t want to witness my kids struggle with the same things I did. On top of that, my ocd has been through the roof lately and it feels like I can’t do anything to help myself. I feel so disgusting and shameful.
Look at it this way, most people have something they are dealing with , some things better than OCD , some worse. OCD can be a highly managed disorder with a good quality of life, if the person applies themselves.
hey! child of and parent with severe ocd and also a person with ocd myself. there is absolutely no blame and anger that i show towards my dad even if it may be genetic. genetic is not just you! it’s your entire lineage so even you may have gotten it from someone!! parents are people too and a part of growing up for me and is accepting that and being able to navigate these changes. humanizing and seeing my parents as grown up people like me and not all knowing and empowered beings. i don’t know how old your kids are, but one mistake i feel was made by my parents was not having a talk about mental illness with me and not having an honest line of communication. educate and acknowledge and validate your own kids, support them if it does turn out they have it and then work together on this journey. i’m now 21, but i know both my dad and i have been living with this for a majority of our lives. our experiences are so different so you also can’t even tell that what you go through would be their own experience. take it a step at a time, don’t blame yourself because this is life. reframe and remember that this anxiety comes from wanting the best for them which ultimately means you love them! i hope this helps
@bdads27 this made me feel better, thank you for ur kind words. im still a teen and i don’t have kids yet, i was just thinking abt the future.
Im with you on this! It’s scary the fact that we have kids and they could sometimes feel somehow that mommy is not ok! You don’t know how bad my OcD has affect my life and it’s sad because my kids! Send you the best and just know your not alone mama! WE GOT THIS!
Something I’m really struggling with is the thoughts of having a child. My husband and I got married last year and always planned to have kids. I am currently experiencing an OCD “flare” and I’m wondering how ethical it is for me to have a child knowing I may pass this condition on. Any insight is appreciated!
I am so angry with ocd. I hate that ocd even exists. I wouldn’t necessarily say I wanted to be a mom when I was younger. I grew up without my mom around. But now my sisters are both moms and I see them and I feel like I’m missing out. But having pocd and hocd has definitely made me feel like it’s completely out of the question. I even made sure my fiancé knew that I didn’t want children/ feel like I can’t have them for fear of hurting them or passing on mental health issues. I was abused growing up and one of my old therapists told me that “people who are abused can become abusers”. That is something that I am not willing to risk. And even though I feel set on that choice, my brain still tells me that I’m missing out. So I’m constantly questioning if I truly feel like I don’t want them or if ocd is convincing me I don’t. Ugh. It’s just so frustrating.
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