Username: OCDeeznutzzz

Date posted: 41w ago

Confused about myself pls help

When I was 15 I met someone who was 20 and we talked for awhile and did some sexual stuff together. He asked me what my body count was and lied even though I was a virgin. We ended up having sex and I cried because I lied to him and confessed. He told me he would have never had sex with me if he knew I was a virgin. We were together for a couple more months but he ended up breaking up with me for lying to him and said that I was too much. I also have this friend who I have been friends with for almost two years now. We would hang out all the time but then she became distant and we would always smoke together I always would smoke her up because I just like to do nice things for people all I ask in return is being kind and communicative. She started to ask less and less and say she was coming over and then she wouldn’t or she would say she was on her way and not show up at all. I let it slide the first couple of times but then I got upset and I said it wasn’t fair because I always smoke her up and the last she could do is be communicative because I was waiting for her for hours and she never showed up. Now I’m worried I’m a narcissist because I held that against her.

Username: spookycupcakespookycupcake

Date posted: 41w ago

Okay first of all, with the 20-year-old you DID NOT do anything wrong I can’t stress that enough. That dude was absolutely in the wrong and should never have pursued you at 15, no matter what. You are a victim honestly. And with the friend scenario, what you said was completely fair in my opinion. Please try not to blame yourself especially with the older guy because no lie you could have said could make it okay for him to pursue you.

Username: spookycupcakespookycupcake

Date posted: 41w ago

@spookycupcake And it honestly makes me really mad that he had the audacity to blame the break up on your lie and make you feel bad about it.

Username: OCDeeznutzzzOCDeeznutzzz

Date posted: 41w ago

@spookycupcake What got me mad about my friend is she said that she would ft me to talk about it and then I didn’t hear from her so I texted her once a day for five days until I was like hey I know I pissed you off but you said we could talk about it… and she then she said that she thought about it and there was nothing more to talk about and that made me annoyed too cuz like you coulda just said that instead of not responding to me

Username: spookycupcakespookycupcake

Date posted: 41w ago

@OCDeeznutzzz Yeah, I’ve had some falling outs where friends just didn’t seem to care about my friendship that much, despite their words saying otherwise. I’m sorry you went through that, it can take a huge toll on you

Username: Steven55!Steven55!

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 41w ago

No, you're not a narcissist, you're being normal. Friendship is a two-way street, and, clearly, she's not keeping up her end of the friendship. Don't feel guilty about letting her go and moving on. As for your liaison with the 20 year-old, it happens. Don't worry about it. You're young and you're going to make mistakes. It's called growing up. Don't beat yourself up over being human. Hope this helps.

Username: AnonymousAnonymous

Date posted: 41w ago

the first situation is legally rape where I live, due to your being a minor 5 years younger than him. it's a terrible power dynamic. none of it is your fault in the slightest & I'm so sorry you had to deal with that guy. also mad at him for saying you were too much. that's such an unkind thing to say, and you deserve to surround yourself with people who will be kind to you and appreciate you just as you are. as for the friend, i think you were being perfectly reasonable. you're not obligated to wait hours for someone. she ought to tell you if she's going to be late, and then you can decide whether to wait or to cancel. your time is valuable.

Username: Wolfram Wolfram

Date posted: 41w ago

Wait, are you the one who had the ex who killed their cat?

Username: OCDeeznutzzzOCDeeznutzzz

Date posted: 41w ago

@Wolfram Yeah

Username: Wolfram Wolfram

Date posted: 41w ago

@OCDeeznutzzz You know my opinion on that. I don't think there's anything credible you can take away from what that person said. I feel like they gaslit you, deflected, emotionally blackmailed, guilt tripped, manipulated and used you. I'm sorry you even crossed paths with someone like that and what they've said has now made you doubt yourself to this degree. You were probably too much for him in the end because he couldn't take advantage of you as much as he used to. It's common for people who have went through abuse to fear becoming anything like their abusers, especially with ocd. You don't deserve this. We are where we are. I'm not offering reassurance, just my point of view. Maybe look into ego dystonic thoughts and how to deal with them. You can get better if you seek, educate yourself and push through the fear to get better results than whatever you have right now.

Username: OCDeeznutzzzOCDeeznutzzz

Date posted: 41w ago

@Wolfram The problem is I do feel like I have narcissistic tendencies.

Username: Wolfram Wolfram

Date posted: 41w ago

@OCDeeznutzzz Little secret...everyone does. Its a spectrum, similar to autism. Everyone is on it but it doesn't mean you have enough symptoms to be diagnosed

Username: spookycupcakespookycupcake

Date posted: 40w ago

@OCDeeznutzzz I think the fact that you’re even concerned about it proves that you aren’t a narcissist

Username: ocdnoononiocdnoononi

Date posted: 41w ago

Woah lots of mean words towards yourself that you don’t deserve- especially someone who was 15 at the time. The man’s a *predator*, don’t take anything he says as truth about yourself. He spits up vile sludge cause he is nothing but vile sludge. And your friend? Is just flaky as all hell. You don’t need to find things wrong in yourself to justify why people leave you. Sometimes it has nothing to do with you, or anything wrong with you. Sometimes people are just assholes.

Username: King silly

Date posted: 21w ago

Is this a thing?

I’m worried I’m an actual horrible person and using these as excuses…. I know nobody will understand this and will get confused but I can’t keep pretending everything is okay anymore:( Basically, for a long time, I would think “oh this is wrong, I shouldn’t do it” then a few months later I would be doing that thing? Like this was forever ago but I think about it, how did I not know things were bad when I thought that way? I mean I knew in reality I never actually knew what was okay and what wasn’t okay, and I only went off of what people told me, or the kind of people I was around 11-16 .. I regret these actions and I always end up crying, how did I not know??… I know I didn’t know but … I don’t know…

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Username: GuiltyGrapes

Date posted: 20w ago

I’m a true monster

I (15m)am seeking advice because I believe I may have a false memory OCD. I am worried that I may have sexually harmed people without realizing it, especially my young cousins. I am also concerned that I may be a pdophile as i think im aroused by kids but idk if its kids or the idea of s*x. I believe my exposure to explicit content at a young age may have also given me hypersexuality, which still affects me.I feel guilt too because when i was younger i did cocsa against my younger brother he doesn't remember it but i do and i'm just scared what if i did other bad things like that. I do not want to use this as an excuse for my actions at age 14 when I made sexual advances/jokes towards my friends, causing them discomfort and harm. Some forgave me saying they didn't care about it now, but one friend ended our relationship due to my inappropriate behavior during a game and is scarred/traumatized and doesn't even want to look at me i tried to tell him i'm sorry but he doesn't really want me talking to him ever again. I am filled with guilt and shame for my actions and consider turning myself in as a result. The idea that I may have harmed someone without remembering it terrifies me, and I struggle to forgive myself for the pain I have caused others. I'm scared to even encounter people I hurt. I'm a monster that deserves to be beat up/ publicly hurt as most pdos/ s*x offenders do.

Username: aza holmes

Date posted: 14w ago

Love

I’m confused. I think I’ve gotten progressively more boy crazy and more of a hopeless romantic, but I’ve completely manipulated myself into thinking that boys just don’t like me and I think it’s a fact. In the past, I was confused and lost on what my sexuality was so I would be in a lot of “flirty” friendships thinking that I genuinely liked my female friends I had these friendships with but that was far from the truth. I can’t imagine myself being with a woman but for some reason it’s just easier for me to talk and flirt with them. I have trauma involving why I brainwashed myself into thinking that I’m a magnet that repels boys from me and I still think that and it’s ruining my brain. (I have a crush on this guy and texted him for the first time, he never replied!!!) which honestly proves my point even more. Am I right or is just all in my head? Some advice please!!

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