does anyone else deal with the need to tell their parents everything bc if you don’t you feel like they don’t know you? especially if you feel like you’ve done something wrong?
100%. This is my hardest compulsion to shake off. I have told my mom EVERYTHING about myself because I thought she wouldn’t know me unless she knew every single detail big or small. I think the most straight-forward way to combat this is to ask yourself, “do I know every single detail about my mom? If not, do I think I still know her?” I would bet you likely do still feel like you know her despite not knowing every single bit of information that has anything to do with her. As for how I handle the compulsion to confess, I have figured out to think of it this way: if I feel the absolute NEED to confess or share information and if I don’t then I have high anxiety, that’s a sign to NOT share it. If I feel like I’m making a conscious decision to talk about something I want to, then I will share it. The only way you will feel any relief is by giving your best effort to stop doing the compulsion to confess. Until then, the urge is going to be overwhelming and very strong. Best wishes to you and remember you are not alone at all!!! I know this struggle all too well! 🖤
Yes I feel exactly the same way! I tell my mom everything even if I know she is going to be upset with me or when I was younger if I knew I would get in trouble, I just feel so guilty if I do not tell her everything
i was like this in middle school and highschool
Don’t give into it hit the sos button right circle blue button in bottom maybe watch the perfection episode
This is the realest thing everr!!
I’ve been feeling the compulsion of confession again. I hate confessing things to my boyfriend I don’t want him to carry the burden. I’d rather hurt than him hurt. But I feel I did something wrong and he needs to know. Like I need to be punished or something. I may be over reacting to it but I just feel guilty and I had a panic attack when I woke up yesterday. I would never cheat on him. Just making guys laugh I feel like I am doing him wrong or flirting. And then when I notice it I just feel awful. I just want to be liked and noticed not romantically but just as a human. I don’t know why I act like this and feel the need to tell him as if I slept with someone. I think it’s attacking my biggest fear which is losing him. Does anyone have experience with this?
I can’t help but feel so anxious because of guilt. I feel guilty about not sharing everything about my OCD to my partner, but because I understand that confession itself is a compulsion and would not help anyone. I feel so anxious too that if all my fears come true and she finds out, then it would be so devastating for everyone especially her. Does anyone feel the same thing? How could I change my perspective on this?
Does anyone feel the urge to confess secrets even though they’re not yours to share? My husband told me about a traumatic event he had and trusts me to keep the secret. It has NOTHING to do with me at all. And my brain is making me feel like I need or want to tell someone. I want to be trustworthy and my brain is making me feel like I’m not because of this obsession. It’s so confusing because I know I don’t need to but I feel like I “want to” because of the OCD anxiety? And the feeling of wanting to makes me feel more anxious and like a terrible person. I have confessed literally everything to my mom about my thoughts so she’s my safe person. And I had an emotionally abusive dad (probably how I got OCD at a young age - like 8 years old) that has now passed away. So confiding in her even with intrusive thoughts and messed up shit was safe for me. Does my brain feel like I need to tell her just because she’s my safe person? I hate the feeling of me “wanting” to tell at all too and can’t tell if it’s real and it’s making me feel like a horrible person. I literally have no secrets myself. His mom knows and so do I. So I’m not the only one that knows. But why is my brain doing this? It’s spiraling me out and has been for a few days. But I want to keep the secret because it’s HIS and it doesn’t affect me in any way. I mean sure I feel bad for him - but it’s from his past before we even met? Someone please help me rationalize why I feel these things and why it’s so confusing to know if you actually “want” to do something or if it’s OCD? It’s causing a deep anxiety pit in my stomach and has been for days now.
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