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- 1y ago
How do you "sit with the anxiety"
How can you do that with mental compulsions like arguing with yourself in your mind, trying to make it go away etc?
How can you do that with mental compulsions like arguing with yourself in your mind, trying to make it go away etc?
Mental compulsions are tricky. I never knew my ruminating and other mental compulsions were compulsions until I spoke with an OCD specialist. The trick is, stop. Just stop arguing, replaying, stop responding to the thoughts and sit with the uneasyness
Thank you for the insight+
@Anonymous Thank you for posting here. You're not alone. We're all here for each other
@Someone99 But how do you just sit with the uneasiness if it’s difficult? I find it difficult to sit with the uneasiness of feeling anxious at times. I’m going through a very rough moment in my relationship and we’re giving each other space and time. I’ve been trying to process everything that’s happened. It’s been days where it was so hard for me to just with that feeling. I tried not checking my girlfriends social media accounts, seeing what she reposts on TikTok, checking her location, maybe overthinking about what she’s doing at work, overthinking about what will the outcome be when we hangout and talk this weekend. I can’t just force the thought of uneasiness to go away and sometimes I just get anxious to a point where I gag because of that feeling.
@Anonymous Don't force the thought of uneasyness to go away. Allow it, sit with it, don't respond to it. That's one of my response tools, I'm feeling uneasy, I don't like it but I'm going to sit with it. I'm so sorry to hear you're going through a tough time, especially with someone extremely important to you. As far as relationships go, it's important to allow her to be her, and for her to allow you to be you.
@Anonymous And don't forget to build positives in to your life, self care.
My mind keeps telling me “something is wrong with you. the weird feeling you are feeling or the weird tingling you are feeling or there is a weird mark on your body. Those are actually a severe symptom and by ignoring it you could die!” Or especially the constant, “go to the emergency room because this impending doom you are feeling, yeah that’s because your gonna die shortly” It doesn’t help whenever people say “well if something was wrong your body would tell you” because my mind keeps telling me that what I’m feeling is proof something is wrong and I need to get it checked out. That I actually am severely sick and that I need to get it checked out as soon as possible, that if I get one more test than I’ll be okay because it will prove nothing is wrong. How do I tell my mind that it’s just anxiety whenever my mind keeps telling me “well if you keep saying that you could be ignoring something more serious.” Or “the doctors are just brushing you off..something is wrong with you” It’s hard to live with my thoughts whenever they are constantly coming up with ways to challenge me and challenge logic. New reasons on why I need to get this checked out because “I’m just being ignored” or “no one is listening to me so I’ll just end up dying” My symptoms range from weak and shaking legs and body to dizzy and unbalanced and dissociated. Recently I’ve been getting this tingling feeling inside my head and on the back of my neck. And my temples have pressure on them. My body keeps coming up with new symptoms I need to worry about, whenever most of them are probably caused by severe and constant anxiety. So severe I can’t even leave the house because I constantly worry about whether this is severe and something will happen if I leave the house. I need immediate ways to start fixing this because it’s especially horrible whenever my period comes around and my anxiety/depression is already higher than usual. I’ve even started considering taking medication (Zoloft, 25mg) which is another trigger for me, I worry about the symptoms I might get from taking it. That’s how you know it’s gotten pretty bad whenever I’ve come to taking something that I’ve been actively avoiding. What are your thoughts? Do I take the medication? What are ways I can deal with my symptoms that seem so severe in the moment but pass by once I’m not anxious? What are ways my thoughts can ease and I stop taking every symptom as something serious, because at the end of the day my anxiety is most likely the reason I have these horrible symptoms. I’ve always been extremely healthy and everytime I go to the doctors they express how healthy I am with all the tests I’ve had.
When an intrusive thought comes I can’t just say “that’s not true” and just move on. I always feel like I have to disprove the thought and be able to say it with confidence but the problem is that the ocd doesn’t allow me to feel and say it with confidence so I get stuck for hours or even days. How can I stop feeling like I need to do this?
Guys I need help. I feel so alone . Basically I have this compulsion where I feel the need to write everything but this stems from me being anxious about EVERYTHING. Like my mom came in my room and I was irritated and snapped, immediately regretted now I keep writing “don’t be mean to mom next time” but I keep thinking about it. Then I think about how I finally left my house today and all the surfaces I touched that could’ve been contaminated and now I’m writing “next time don’t touch this and this”. Then I think about all the things I need to be doing for this week and I’m writing “don’t forget to do this and this” even though I’ve written it 5 times already. This is what happens everyday btw. My brain always thinks about something I need to be doing and making me anxious that I’ll forget it which is why I write it down on my notes app. I’m sooo mentally exhausted I need help pls!! Anyone have any advice ? I used to think I need to stop the writing but really I need to stop the anxious thoughts coming into my head . People say I need to accept the thoughts and let it go but that’s too hard for me
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